I was having a discussion with a co-worker the other day about dating and he swore to me there is an unspoken rule with guys that you have to have sex with them by the third date to keep them interested. If not they will move on to the next thing. He honestly believes ALL guys are like this. I'm not so sure I agree though. I've been off the dating scene so long now I'm not really sure about anything to be honest. lol So I thought I would come here and see if any of you have heard of this unspoken rule and if there's any truth to it at all. Personally I think if there's chemistry between two people it will just happen when it happens. When both of you are comfortable. There shouldn't be a game about it, or an expectation that someone HAS to be comfortable enough by the third date or risk losing the person. Someone like that to me wouldn't be worth continuing dating anyway. What do you think? i'm female 24 and i love to have date always my y.a.h.0.0 messenger id is HueStang17 you can talk to me regarding sex.:love:
Crap, I failed miserably. I didn't know you were supposed to go on 3 dates. I didn't know you had to go on a date at all.
I always thought the third date rule was for chicks who thought that they couldnt be called sluts if they could hold out for 3 dates.
The 3 date rule seems silly to me. If I liked a girl I would not put a specific time frame on her to have sex with me. Now if she would not even give me a kiss by the third date, then I may think she was not that into me.
It's all about feeling comfortable with your date. Some people feel comfortable by the 3rd date to have sex, some by the 2nd, and some people it takes longer. Somewhere down the line the average time became 3 dates, but let's be honest, you only really see that in TV and Movies. You just got make sure it's whenever you BOTH are comfortable with it, no matter how long it takes.
My current boy and I did it on the third date. We had known each other for about 23 years before the first date though My last boy and I waited 3 months. And during the first month, we had a date every single day. I'd estimate we had about 40 dates in the last two months. So, it was about 70 dates. The 3 date rule is stupid. It happens when it happens.
The third date is fine, assuming you've fucked her sister after the first date and her mother after the second.
That is such a stupid made up thing. I would not listen to your co-workers advice..lol.. There is no singe # of dates that require you to have sex that is just rubberish .. It's when both people feel right & connected and are ready to take that step. If men think that they need to re group on there dating "rules"..lol..
Sex on the third date? That "rule" died a long time ago. Everybody is doing their own thing now. Nobody even agrees anymore as to what "sex" is, so how can you always have "it" on the third date? Is it only vaginal that counts, or can it be oral or anal or hand jobs? It depends on who you ask. Remember the old baseball analogy that guys used to use all the time? First base was kissing. Second base was breast fondling, third was exploring inside the panties with a finger, and a home run was vaginal sex. These days, there are several versions of that too. I even heard one younger person say that they think third base is now vaginal sex, and a home run is anal! I've given up trying to figure it all out.
