Me and my husband have a question. He has a high sex drive and i have a low sex drive due to my meds.....how can we make each other happy without making the other unhappy does anyone else have this problem .. also we have 2 kids under 3 we both blame it on being to tired after chasing 2 kids all day but he still wants to have sex all the time. also he thinks im not attracted to him and he thinks thats why i dont want to have sex but thats not the case. we have sex about 1 time a month if were lucky....together 8 years married 4 years. does anyone know how we can make his high and my low to a medium? what do you think we can do to improve our sex life? any ideas anyone?
I don't know what kind of medications you are on, but is there a possibility they could be switched to something else? There is usually something similar that might not have the same side effects. I have 3 girls 3, 4 and 5, so I can related to being tired from chasing kids around all day. My husband and I went through a stage where neither of us were really up for sex and before I knew it, I wasn't even thinking about sex anymore. It seems that the more we have sex, the more I want to have sex. As much as I'm against scheduling sex into a relationship, maybe set aside a night a week for the both of you. Get a babysitter if you can, or just spend some time together after the kids go to bed, or before they get up in the morning. It doesn't necessarily have to be sex, but take a shower together, give each other a message, build some sexual tension. If sex happens, great, if not, don't stress. How do you feel about oral sex? Or even a hand job? Does he like either of those?
If my wife is particularly tired, I masturbate and she 'helps out' by scratching my inner thighs, cupping my balls or licking my nipples. If we are lucky, she will find some strength, get turned on and join in. But mostly, I have a pretty powerful and intense come - more than I would if I were solo, and she gets pleasure from making me happy. I would do the same in reverse, but am always randy, so she never goes without
Besides the obvious setting some time aside. My initial thought was to try to get very very quick quickies in. I know its a tease but it'll build up to better sex when yo guy do have time. Buy a 5 hour energy drink, take just a sip a hour or two before bed and see if you guys will have enough energy to do something.
