Describe your worst relationship

If you're comfortable doing so, of course.

I'm only in my second relationship, but the first was an absolute total nightmare. She was constantly breaking up with me, calling obsessively (up to 20 times in a row), accusing me of cheating basically every day. Sometimes she'd just storm off in a rage and I would have no idea why. At one point she even told a police officer I raped her because she "thought I was cheating with someone in my mind" and because I used a condom which she took to mean I "didn't love her". She did hit me once or twice, too.

I was new to the whole thing so I was desperate to hold on and try to make things work, obviously they couldn't possibly. Sigh... major waste of that time of my life.

But hey, I'm free now...

Men and women both, any experiences you'd care to share?

I hope this thread doesn't trigger anyone with histories of abusive relationships or things of the like. I just wanted to open up a place to be able to share because I couldn't find a thread like this.

 

I was with a woman that I fuckin hated to be around. She was a hateful and selfish person but she adhered to my sexual appetite. This relationship later for bout 4 years until she felt we needed a "break".

 

There was a girl who I dated for a month. She was just rude and selfish. That was my worst. I'm typically pretty picky about who I date. That was the one time I wasn't. I learned my lesson.

 

I dated I guy on and off for 4 years and it was pretty bad. He was narcissistic and has an extremely dominant personality. He was pretty manipulative and into mind games too. And he could be verbally abusive at times and could make me feel like shit.

The worst part was the fights. They were so over the top dramatic - like, why do two people feel the need to act that crazy towards each other.

Hindsight being 20/20, I don't know how I put up with that shit. I like my world to be balanced. I don't like confrontation or theatrics. And I have pretty high self esteem so I don't know what kind of weird funk I was going through to let someone make me feel that shitty for so long. I think I was temporarily out of my head for a while.

 

I have actually just broken up with my on/off girlfriend of 15 years standing.When I first met her I was totally in love with her.However it was a very tempestuous and stormy relationship.We both had so many bad arguments that all semblance of respect for ourselves and each other was lost time and time again.She would push me so far,I felt,because I am a man and that I would never hit her.I never did hit her,but I can sure can shout and break things,and so could she! She reminded me of my mother in so many ways - a strong but emotionally volatile woman.Me and this woman,her name was Maya,would fall out and then get back together every few months.It was emotionally very draining.She is still the woman who most understands me in this World and she has become part of who I am,but I never want another relationship like this again - the remorse of bad arguments is something I can do without.We are no longer in contact,and I must say at times I really miss her.But I think a final severance is what we both need to get on with our lives.We both had mental health problems and this is not always a good combination.Unfortunately People with mental health problems (so called) often end up together because people from the "well" world haven't got the time to understand us and are put of by the stigma of our so called "condition".These days I am really quite sane and in control of my symptoms,so ideally In future I want to meet someone from the "well" World.

 

My ex was terrible. He lived two hours away and at first he was so eager to see me all the time. He was 25, I was 18. He would come take me out every weekend and take me to crappy restaurants and then not call me barely at all during the week saying he was ALWAYS working and yet he had no money ever. He basically had me thinking he worked from 7am to like 11pm and then slept all night and only had sundays off sometimes. He texted me sometimes.

He pressured me into having sex for the first time and I had to beg him to wear a condom most of the time. He was always rough with me, and always fucked me in his car. Only in a bed like once or twice. When I had problems at home he wouldn't be there for me, but got mad when I called someone else to console me. Then he kept telling me he was shopping around for rings but kept stringing me along. I finally told him, I'd be fine not getting engaged just now, but stop dangling it in front of me and not doing it or I'm leaving.

So what happens? He proposes in the worst way possible. In his car, just handing me the ring. Then I started getting suspicious because he was even more distant after that. I checked his computer stuff, and saw he went on a dating site DAILY. I dumped him then and there and sold the ring. I made a profile on that same site and met the man I'm living with now. He's wonderful I was stupid, but it turned out well.

 

He was my worst but also the povital point that made me who I am today. No regrets. I now know what I dont want in a relationship.

Together for 11 yrs. Off and on. He drank a lot. I was the "man" in the rela. I paid for everything and a lot of the time he didnt go to places with me because he thought it was stupid. It was the grumpiness that got me. I couldnt be happy for both of us.

Long story short. I have now found a man that adores me as I adore him. I still talk to my ex we broke it off on good terms and I have no hard feelings. Just a path in life I was suppose to take.

 

This guy I dated for six months was pretty bad.. He was emotionally abusive. Not like calling me names or anything, but he was good at making me feel like shit. And he was incredibly...ugh. He wanted a blowjob, and at the time I wasn't comfortable with doing that. So he did the whole "Come onn" thing and actually forced my head down.

Then I dated another guy. This one is actually pretty funny. The relationship lasted three days. On the third day, he sent me a message saying:


"I love you.


But I'm breaking up with you."


I mean, seriously? haha.

 

That is so horrible of him to force your head down on his dick when you didn't want to do it. What an asshole.

Did the other guy ever tell you why be broke up with you after three days? Did you ever do it with him?

 

mine was... well. evil.

she and I met on icq through a friend of a friend. within the first 3 days she lied to me. ok, it was about her height and weight, and I could forgive that. things settled for a while, then the drama started. she got paranoid and suspicious, calling every 10 minutes, (depriving me of sleep, even, which when you're working 40 hours, is hell) and getting more and more needy and dependent. psychotic, even. she stopped taking her meds about 6 months in, and got onto coke so I'd pay attention to her. well, she got blasted out of her mind one night, walked into a biker bar, got up on the pooltable and said 'ain't none of you f***ers man enough to take me!'. got gangraped into the hospital. I took my vacation time off my job and flew out to see her (gods above, I sound stupid) and then, as soon as I got home...the shit started up again. the constant drama, the threats of suicide every time I got off the phone to go to work/shower/piss/sleep, and the attempt once a week. she wound up committed once, and her mother managed to get her out, and it finally all came to a head one day, when I finally had had enough. after 18 months and 23 days, I said 'if you're going to kill yourself, shut up and do it already. you need serious help, and I can't help you, I can't fix you, and I'm tired of killing myself to try and prove to someone that thinks she's beyond being lovable that I do care. so shut up and die already, but it's nobody's fault but yours.' she cussed me, hated me, wound up getting help, and went off and married someone else. sent me a nice little card a year later that said 'look what you missed out on'. I happily burned it. the irony? the guy she married put her through the same drama she put me through, and as soon as he got his greencard out of the deal.. he ditched her.

ain't karma a bitch?

 

I like how a lot of you ended with "but that's over, and things are great now". Just a shame that it can take a hell of a lot longer to escape than it should...

matchesrulezu, forcing your head down, sounds like rape to me. Disgusting. I'm sorry that happened.


Born25YearsTooLate- it's a shame when people are on meds and such, isn't it? The GF I described was also on meds, for severe bipolar, and would also prevent me from sleeping with incessant early morning calls and would threaten to kill herself if I said I had to get off the phone.
You half want to help the person and make things better, but then eventually you realize you need to watch your own ass too!

 

He was about 15 years older than me and I was 19. Mostly long distancance, which suited me fine because I didn't want things to be too serious and I needed time to be with my friends. He got jealous and didn't trust me though, and he didn't want me anywhere near boys. We had huge arguments when I said I wouldn't stop seeing my male friends for him.

Then at my birthday, he showered me with gifts that made me feel uncomfortable. He wanted to have sex but I didn't feel well, and I was at the end of my period and didn't feel pampered and clean. I said no, but he wouldn't accept it. In the end he got his way and he raped me. Afterwards, I stayed in denial that rape is what it was. Shortly afterwards I started seeing someone amazing, and I finished things with the first guy. It was hard breaking up with him, he wouldn't accept that I didn't want to marry him, he wanted me to move abroad and away from my family for him, and he accused me of cheating. It took months to break up with this guy.

For some messed up reason, I still hear from the first guy every now and again. He got married (for the second time) and then divorced, and then had a good few failed relationships which left him suicidal. He's seeing a young girl now, and I just pray he doesn't burden her with all his insecurities and force her to do things she doesn't want to in order to get from her what he wants.