Do you need to consciously tense your muscles to cum?

Help, ladies. I've been having sex for about six months, and am afraid my style of masturbating has screwed me over. I do it on my stomach, and generally tense my legs because this leads to quicker, better orgasms.

Once I started having sex, I tried to do it on my back to see what my boyfriend should do. I couldn't get anything to happen because my muscles wouldn't tighten on their own in response to working my clit.

For most people, does this happen automatically? Or do you have to make an effort to tense these muscles, and I need to get used to doing it?

Thanks!

 

You might try sex in a bunch of ways , on top , doggy , 69 , ect. just to see what you get . desert rat

 

I have always tensed my legs up too. I've found that doggy style is the easiest way for me to get off. I just sort of push my legs back and put my butt down just enough that I can feel the stretch/tension in the tops of my legs.

 

I love doggie , but I cum too fast , unless I have had a lot to drink . I have heard if a lady holds that pc mussle tight while having sex she will get sore quickly . I guess a lot deponds on how big her bf/hub is . desert rat

 

I would say no... it's exactly the opposite for me... the emotional conditions have to be right to reach orgasm, you have to completely let go without fear that doing so would displease him... and that's when it happens. I feel like I've always heard of women saying they like being on top but I only cum really hard on the bottom. Something about losing control and being completely subject to his control does it for me, but only because he's my long term boyfriend and probable husband and I completely trust him...in another situation perhaps I'd want control, but that's neither here nor there..

 

This.


I am really hard to get off. Lately I have been having regular O's and seem to get off better while on top just less intense than bottom. Hell Im not complaining tho!!! Im getting off!!!

 

does making a fist count?.