Long distance problems, help (long)

Met this girl in February, by May we were hanging out at least 4 days a week, all day. We'd scrounge up money for beer, sometimes we'd get coke or speed or whatever and just get fucked up. We weren't dating or anything but we were having sex. On April 20th we went out to a bar then caught a movie, had an almost transcendental experience and on that day we decided to officially date.

Things continued, we were both being irresponsible about life and spent countless sleepless nights, no real effort for a job or anything from either of us. I'm 21, she just turned 28. We did spend a remarkable amount of time exploring each others minds, we got real real close.

Fast forward to July, she's being evicted from her apartment (we're in New England). She settles on moving down to Florida to live with her cousin and work in her business.

August 1st, she boards the plane.

Now she's stuck working with no connections and no drugs, which was our thing. I'm continuing my shit with my old friends in town, bumming around, but I'm set to go back to university in September.

We aren't talking much, she's giving me one word answers when we're on AIM. Her phone speakers are busted and she doesn't call.

She did promise letters right away, I sent her my address numerous times and she's not responding.

I rarely text because I know she's busy, I'm not harassing her at all.

It was just so great and now I feel like every conversation is so abrasive and I call her out on messaging me to give me one word answers and not leave any room for conversation. I try to be lighthearted and joke and I get an "ok".

It seems to be falling apart. I love her, she told me she loves me...

I'm going to stop worrying about myself and not take offense at one word answers because it really isn't about me, I need to support her in what she's struggling to do.

Ugh. Where am I in all this?

How does one go about this long distance shit exactly? We will be apart for several more months at least :-((

 

Sounds as if it is time to move on. The lack of communication is obviously bothering you. You're 21, keep it moving in an orderly fashion elsewhere. If she wants you, she knows where you are. NEVER put your life on hold for someone else. You don't have that much life to waste. Once classes begin, you'll find another woman to enjoy life with, and between classes, homework, and a new girl, you'll forget all about whateverhernameis.

 

I agree. Time to move on. Don't put your life on hold for her. If and when she does come back and things work out, then so be it. Until then you should moving on and tell her that.