What is the truth about that? Is it really so that a large amount of girls almost never have orgasms? There are conflicting statements. Some women will say that it's not true, that it's just girls having bad boyfriends and that it isn't hard at all. Others claim to never have had one and that that's just the way it is... What's the poop on this?
The problem is threefold. 1. Young men (teens) usually don't know what they're doing 2. Women don't always know how their own body and mind work in the halls of sexuality. 3. Sometimes are mental/psychological or even hormonal reasons for a lack of orgasm for women.
It's the second and third that bothers me.. or worries me. Why do women feel that way? Why do they have these mental blocks? Is capitalism or the model-world to blame? Do women feel inferior due to skinny models and pornography? Why don't all women realize that men don't care about that? That most men feel that all female bodies are amazing and beautiful. Why dont men have the same block? Even men with penis-size inferiority have no problem getting an orgasm. Is is true to theorize that it's only in the last hundred years that female orgasm is an issue? That before no one cared about it. That, say, two hundred years ago sex was solely for the man's orgasm... Because, you can tell yr girlfriend that she is beautiful, that it doesnt matter What she looks like because no matter the man will love Her body; but it isnt a individual problem, but one that includes all women of all time... It seems like an impossible problem. I was once with this feminist, and it was the best sex ever. The reason? Because she was 100% comfortable with her body. In other words: Women not being comfortable naked makes the sex bad for them and for the man. So why doesnt it change? Who do we blame?
Your right that society can add unnecessary stress which can ruin good sex. (Men have their own problems like ED, or premature ejaculation, and varying strength of orgasms) And really a lot of being able to experience orgasm is in the brain and women's brains function differently in that department and emotions have a larger say in the matter. I should also say diet and exercise affects this too, as can various methods of hormonal birth control, the pill for instance. As for physical stimulation guys may not know what they're doing, don't care, or perhap there is a lack of communication on how to make each other get off. And not all women can come from intercourse, it's a myth that they can. --- As for your inquiry into the past I can't really say. But I do know that depending on when and what culture you are referring to, the idea of a female experiencing pleasure from the baby making process was a myth, and a shameful dirty one at that.
Don't ever forget - the most important sex organ for a woman is her brain. If she isn't mentally "tuned" it doesn't matter what stimulation is applied, the orgasm won't happen. Sex becomes just another "color by numbers" chore. It happens in even the most loving relationships - sometimes, that little zingy button just won't get pressed. There are as many reasons as there are women on the planet, so if your lady doesn't achieve an "O" is is not necessarily a reflection on you. (Though it might be......) just be patient.
Believe it or not, some guys have this problem too. So guys can't come from sex or oral sex or have extreme difficulty doing so without losing their erection. However they can make themselves cum. I was once with this girl who claimed to never have came from sex. Of coarse I took it as a challenge. She could make herself cum with viberating toys on her clit after a long period of time. So I thought I could make her cum orally thinking I had some pretty good skills. Still no dice. She also claimed I was the best she ever had. Months of trying brought no results even though I felt she was so close on a number of occasions. This was a booty call but after awhile she admitted she had fallen in love. Then shortly after the big day came, she finally came. So great sex wasn't enough for this one, her loving and trusting me were key. She loved before but I don't think she trusted them and maybe they were just bad in the sack. Either way I was proud and happy to do it for her.
As a woman that really never got to know herself until my 30s. Gasp I know! Lol. For me it was body image. I thought I was too fat or not the standard model body. Now that I have gained my confidence and feel like if I can give this man a hard on my body must be hot! So I let all my worries go and now....granted I have not orgasmed as much as I like but the thing is I can! I am really hard to get off. It really is mental for me.
oh.....i am transgender. m to f ..when i was a guy it was like a porno movie playing in my head...than i took massive amounts of Estrogens and Testosterone blockers and all that disappeared...than i sort of became ambivalent regarding sex.....never really wanted it..or needed it. i think hormones have allot to do with sex.you know its all in the brain.i had gender realinment surgery..my Testosterone levils dropped now i say in gender queer...like two spirit
