I am a 31 year old male who has never been in a relationship, still a virgin. I am trying to get some advice on how to get started. A few quick words on why I am at this stage. I am not religious (not at all actually), hideous or socially awkward. It's just that for a long time, I was waiting for one more course to finish or one more project to complete or one more paper to publish. Also, since I grew up in a relatively conservative country (India), so I never had any peer pressure to go out and get into a relationship. Now I live in a west European country and I have had few girls who showed interest in me but I chickened out because I have no idea how to move forward. I am not exactly shy around girls, and I have no problems in carrying out a conversation. It's just that I feel really nervous when a girl shows non-platonic interest in me. I am not interested in a physical relationship. I am looking for a real relationship but I am not really sure how to go about it. Any tips?
buy some hookers and get it out of the way. i know you're not interested in a physical relationship, but if you're incapable of the physical aspect then no one will give you a chance at a real relationship.
A physical relationship means the relationship is not 'real'?? I don't 100% agre with the above post because I have heard of asexual relationships working and thriving but I think a question you need to ask yourself is 'am I asexual?'. Once you answer this question move on from there because to me it looks like you have a pretty warped view of sex.
there aint no easy answer, invite the girls that you connect with to a show or event, get to know them better. talking about sex will have to be a part of some of the getting to know her better part though.
Too busy for women and sex? Don't try and fool yourself. You're making excuses because women scare the shit out of you. I know, I was in your situation years ago. I was almost 24 when I told myself I wasn't going to be a coward any longer. I wasn't going to let fear control my actions any longer. I ended up visiting a massage parlor, I'm not proud of it but glad I did. I have no regrets. It allowed me to move on and get passed my hang ups. You don't have to go about it this way but it was easier and gave me a sense of control about sex for the first time. After that it wasn't too much longer I was in my first real relationship. You have to push yourself. Take women off that pedistol you have in your mind. This is your life and you already wasted the best years of it being alone. The time is now.
