Hi all, I'm new here and decided to join because I need some advice and can't really talk about it with anyone I know. I've always sort of had fantasies about women, mostly my friends but I've ignored it. I've been with guys, I find guys attractive but more and more I feel myself noting girls a lot more. I've started a new job found myself instantly attracted to one of the girls there. We've become really close and get along really well. She has since told me that she's bi. Anyway, ever since then I've found myself thinking about her all the time, and every time I are her I can't help but always think to myself "gee she looks good today" and "wow she's so hot". She had a girlfriend but it didn't work out (I may have pushed the whole break up thing a little). At times I've felt like we've flirted but then I'm not sure I might be imagining it. I don't know what to think about these thoughts I've been having, I still notice guys but I can't get this girl out of my head!
I'm a guy and not gay, so if I'm inappropriate here please ignore...but can you try asking a girl (this one or someone else) out for a cup of coffee or something light and see how it goes? I don't see how you'd find out without at least some experience, and I don't see how you'd get experience without taking a step to get to know someone better. Again, ignore if I'm off-base here, but this sounds to me like any dating situation early in a potential relationship. Also, because it's work, I would take things slow in any case, make sure you're both on the same page before getting intimate.
Workplace flings can be tricky. If all goes well it is great. However, there are a LOT of things that can go wrong, and then your job could end up in jeopardy. Think this through very carefully before you act.
Hi Charmer Confused, I see that you have had fantasy of being with the same sex and you are not quite sure if you are gay or not? Well I am a gay man and in my opinion if you never try dating or going out with another woman you will not know rather you are gay or not. I would act on it and then decide , but I would not act on your desires with someone who has feelings for you if you are not sure, no one wants to be the one who is an experiment, unless you try and explain how you feel to the other woman it is important for you to communicate with her. Who knows perhaps you will wonder why you haven't been with other women long ago, or maybe you will end up deciding you will stick with men until you try to act on your fantasy you may never know.
