What constitutes as a "good" relationship?

my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 6 months now and because we were never friends before we dated, it took us a while to open up/break the ice and get to know each other. we met at work and the main thing we have in common is music, however his taste in music is more limited than mine. common interests isnt that big of a deal for me, but i have noticed that as people we are alike in the way that we arent very talkative people. personality wise we're alike in many other ways, we're both spontaneous, easy-going, understanding, etc. anyways we're more of listeners than talkers and i would consider myself to be an introvert and as for him, he is only talkative aorund his close friends... mainly because they talk about and smoke weed. they sell it too, so for him weed is a big part of his life and pretty much the one thing he knows very well and can talk a lot about.

with that said, my bf and i didn't talk much during the first couple months... it was more flirting and small talk. we started to talk more as we got to know each other better over the past months, and while we are comfortable with each other, we're still not super talkative but the silence between us is never awkward and as individuals, that's how we are with others. but in general we have lots of fun together just chillen, smoking weed and watching shows together. for me, i dont mind it when it's quiet, i enjoy his company esp when we're just listening to tunes in the car. around his friends i dont have much to say esp if theyre talking about weed, but i dont mind listening in. sometimes ill make effort to seem interested or get involved but theres only so much i can say or ask lol. and sometimes i think they translate my quietness as me being shy or standoffish when rly, i dont have anything to say. but when we do talk it's usually about our daily lives or just philosophical things. my bf has spoke in general terms that im quiet but when i think about it, he's just the same.... so im not sure if he notices the fact that we dont talk a lot or if he thinks we dont talk a lot because *i* don't talk. often times i doubt myself and start to wonder if im too shy or awkward, or if the fact that we're not very talkative is normal in a relationship, because despite that we're not talkative i feel very comfortable with him and i think he feels the same with me... but it often makes me wonder what constitutes as a "good" relationship. what do you guys think?

 

Some of the most cherished times I've had in relationships were moments of comfortable silence, when just being in the presence of the one you love was all that was needed. I wouldn't get hung up on the lack of conversation.

If you feel it's good, and your satisfied with it, then it's good. Don't make the mistake of holding it up to another example for comparison. Love doesn't need validation from external, worldly sources. The instant you start measuring what you've got to what someone else has, it's not about love, it's about climbing some ladder that doesn't exist or matter.

 

I think a good relationship is based on really good bam bam

 

Yeah, forget everything I just said. Dark sugar is right (as usual). It's about the bam bam.

 

It's suger, and yes it is all about the bam bam. Bam bam makes the world go round

 

lol, I've had good bam bam with girls who I thought had borderline personality disorder.... and I'd do it again.

 

a good relationship-Trust is important

 

a good relationship is at least 70 words per minute.

 

a good relationship is simply one where both individuals are happy comfortable, bringing each other up and not dragging down. Every relationship is different you cant quantify or compare love

 

But you can certainly notice trends and aspects of what makes a good relationship though.

So in a nutshell I'm list these qualities:

1. Great communication verbal and non-verbal
2. Respect
3. Healthy and balanced displays of affection (details of what this means varies couple to couple)
4. Things other than sex to laugh and bond over
5. Trust and lack of anxiety in the bedroom so good sex can happen
6. You make each other happy and love each other
7. Know how to argue honestly say your points of view to each other and compromise as a team.



Bonus qualities:
8. Being rich
9. Relationship is accepted by the rest of each other's extended family

10.(half serious half joke) having the same sexual orientation

 

Ding.

Ding. Ding.

DingDingDingDingDingDingDingDing.

 

in the last 100days I havent masturbated once.. I have a good girl..

 

I Hope I'm Not Out Of Line By Asking This Question, But Whatever Happened

To The Lady You Married A Few Months Back...



Cheers Glen.

 

glen you need to read my mail more closely.. that was like 2yrs ago, I been divorced from that a long long time.....

 

One important aspect of a good relationship would be having a good sense of humor.

 

11. You both make each other better people than you are/were alone.

 

she has a bell in her vagina?