Here is my delima. I met a girl online, lets call her Anna. I really care for her and she tells me the same. We've never met in person but we've had great conversations and moe than once we've had sex video chat where she would play with herself. I thought for sure she she was into me when this happened. But renectly I am starting to second guess the situation. For one, she goes to her friends house every so often, we'll call her melissa for ease and from there she has given me a show with her friend playing with her. All the while texting other people and video chatting with others as well. But she assures me she is into me. I also have other people that she knows telling me she has video sex with ALOT of other guys. I guess I just need someone to tell me what I already know. Thanks All.
I would move on. If she is chatting with a lot of other people, she is obviously not looking for just one guy. She may be into you but not enough to exclusively focus on a realtionship (or anything) with just you.
I thought so too. But would it be bad of me to allow things to go as they are, I mean if shes that type of girl who doesn't care am I the bad guy if I enable her?
If you continue as things are, the biggest problem I see would be you not working on relationships with other women that might go further than your one with this one. If you had started your relationship with her on a "video sex buddies" basis, that would be one thing. But you, in your head, were investing a lot more than that in this woman. Switching to a more casual relationship might be difficult. And the amount of your time involved, either on-line or mooning over what might have been, could be spent interacting with people and developing deep relationships with them. (BTW, do you have a link to Anne and Mellissa's web cam?)
okay, you guys aren't dating sooooo what do you expect? and plus you've never seen her in person before so really you don't know what she's about or who she is, you just know her via computer/ phone etc...so if your not the only one, she's either not sure about you or isn't interested enough to make you the only one. and if she is unsure about YOU then you most definitely need to be unsure about HER. you shouldn't want somebody who isn't 100% sure they want you. I would either reevaluate your feelings or talk to her about hers.
Your point is noted. As I concluded in my OP I merely saught confermation on what I already knew. There havent been enough emotions involved for me to be distraught. After all, judging by the way she easily undresses for random guys over the internet, myself included, its perhaps for the best as this is not someone I want a relationship with, maybe a one night stand but definately not a commitment. I think the best course of action is to carry on they way they are, if I get a hook up then all the better, meanwhile I'll start looking elsewhere. Thanks for your advice.
Time to move on my friend, and obviously you know that. Whatever you have with this woman is NOT a relationship that will amount to anything. It is what it is.
It seems to me that you are being clingy and trying to force her into your ideal of a relationship in your head (possibly without discussing it with her). Let her go or adapt to her wants.
Dale,you have nothing to give up ON,mate. What you DO have is a friend who keeps you entertained and is happy to do so. You're now in the Hall of Fame,my man.
