contacting an old love from 70's

I think that I found a GF of mine, briefly, from the 70's who broke up with me after only a few months. On the internet. Oddly, I still think of her. She is probably married and I am single. And she lives 1000 miles away and probably does not even remembe me at all. We have had no contact since. Should I call or write a snail letter?

Is it ridiculous and dumb to call or contact her now? Only to talk,of course--nothing else. Will she think I am crazy? This is like something from a movie. Maybe I still needsolace.

I amlooking for opinions from older folks, especially female.

 

Well, I'm obviously not the female you're hoping will respond to this post, but go for it if you are sure it's the right person. Stuff like this doesn't come about for no reason at all, it's synchronicity... act on it.

And snail mail would be best, it shows you honestly care. (Takes more time and effort)

 

I would have said a phone call is best...

but Im a man and everything I do is wrong

 

Ummm.... You saying I'm not?

 

i was replying to the first guy

 

hahah to the conversation above this.


I would not find it weird if I heard from an old friend...It really depends on how long you knew her and how well of friends you were then. Ask yourself, would she still remember me?, if so, then what was it?
I don't want you to be in one of those awkward situations where you are stuck trying to explaining who you were, she would think you are out of your mind then.

Either call or snail letter, whichever makes you more comfortable in my opinion.
If you were to write a snail letter, would it be sent to her home address or by some internet source? Because, I would recommend the letter, it opens the door to phone calls.
But call if you want but it will probably only be brief and short.

I don't know maaan.

 

I think you should go 4 it!!!!

 

How have you verified the information you found? Are you going by a picture or just the persons name? Is there any way to verify the age of the person you found?

I was married briefly in 1970 and legally changed my name back to my maiden name after the divorce. Most others that I knew did not change their name back after divorce. These days women often keep their maiden name even if they get married but it was not as common back in the day.

If you are pretty sure that it is the same person you could contact them again. There are several people from my past that I would not mind hearing from again. :2thumbsup:

 

Me? I'd be delighted if someone I used to know contacted me!Then again I've got nothing to hide Go for it ma man. What you got to lose?

 

bearing in mind that you say that shes an old love back from the 70s, be prepared for the fact that people change through the years, we all do, it certainly wont be the same as before but i would say go for it and see what happens, its always good to catch up with old friends. also be prepared for the fact that if shes married and happy she (and partner) might not want the past to catch up with her so go gently to begin with.
as youve caught up with her via the internet maybe that is the way to briefly contact her at first, a letter through her door could possibly cause problems with a current relationship possibly but would be the next step if the initial contact goes okay.
someone else here has mentioned synchronicity, believe in that because trust me that really happens, have had many times that that has happened in my life.
good luck. :2thumbsup:

 

My ex of 10 months recently contacted me by e-mail (I know short time but 6 year relationship). In it's own way it is courteous. The phone call
or text could be at an inopportune moment, the snail mail could leave a paper trail that questions could come up with (not knowing anything about their current situation i.e. jelousy etc.) not knowing the current situation (sorry coming out of an abusive relationship). I am currently in a happy relationship but the whole e-mail thing has a little unintended courtesy to it.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

been there myself, old high school romance 3 yrs, thought we would get married, she thought the same, turns out i went to another country, and she got married to another. i havent seen or spoke to her in 35 yrs. we had a very strong bond, probably the only one i ever truly loved. i located her on a social site, sent pm, chatted briefly about the things we do today, stayed away from the past eventhough i wanted to discuss it. turns out i needed closure.....and still do. if you figure the answer out i would like to know, because the inner me feels no different than 35 yrs ago. it takes a strong love to keep one thinking of someone they havent seen in that period of time.
just my perspective.....