I think I might've gotten involved in a bad situation

Hey guys! So this guy that was in one of my classes last year asked me out the other night. He's twenty and I'm seventeen. I don't like him so I said my parents wouldn't let me (which in hindsight was probably not a good a idea). Anyway he's been badgering me about asking my parents and everything and I keep putting it off.

Well I read through his facebook statuses and he seems like a really angry, violent, obsessive, depressed kid. I really don't want to hurt his feelings, but I'm kind of scared. I'm not a violent person, and I really don't like being around people who are. Should I just go out with him like once or twice and be a terrible date so he stops liking me? Or is that worse than just telling him I don't like him that way? How do I deal with this?

thanks guys,
Lars

 

No. Why even start with a violent person? Nip it now. However.

 

Wise words,scratcho.

Listen to him,Lars.

 

Thanks. And if he doesn't stop bothering you---tell your dad. If he's anything like me,he'll have a message for the boy.

 

Tell him ur a lesbian or really religious I would make up something that gives him the message that u won't now or ever be able to be with him

 

Yes, a lesbian trying to find gods forgiveness.

 

You're 17 and he's 20 but you were in the same class last year?

 

No, don't go out with him. If you go out with him once, he will take that as encouragement and never leave you alone, and may even heighten his pursuit. If he's stalking you and you fear for your safety, get a restraining order and/or contact the police.

 

Definitely do NOT go out with this guy. If you are ever uncomfortable enough with a situation to ask others what you should do, follow your immediate reaction and dont do it. He sounds like he could be trouble and I doubt pretending to be a bad date will get rid of him. You dont have to lie to him (though you could), just tell him that you are not interested in him and if he still persists, tell your dad. Scratcho is right, dads dont play around when it comes to their little girls.

 

you have a voice and you have choice, just say NO!!! you dont ever have to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or scared.

 

you aren't involved in a bad situation - yet. But if you go out with him it will quickly escalate into a situation.

At this point you don't owe him anything (whereas if you go out with him a couple of times you'll at least owe him an explanation as to why you don't want to keep going out with him). I wouldn't recommend lying. If he really does have a screw loose and finds out you're not really a lesbian or whatever then he might react badly. I would just tell him you don't want to get involved with anyone right now, then avoid talking to him again.

 

Is OP male or female? There is a pronoun or two in there