"love ya"

Those were two words I heard for the first time yesterday. They were from a man I've grown close to over the last year. It is a long distance "friendship" that I think we both have hopes for something more in the future. What I wonder guys.....is "love ya" the same as "I love you".

 

I never use it the same way..."love ya" is for my friends. "I love you" is for my family and those I consider family.

 

What do you use for someone you're "in love" with?

 

My husband-who falls under the family category...he gets an "I love you"

Or "I hate you" depending on the circumstances

 

"i" love you..

 

This friend who said "love ya" also has lust for me. And chance he is "in love"?

 

you're reading too much into it.

Let him approach that topic if he is.

 

so long as by love you mean rumpy pumpy

sure.

 

hm .... rumpy pumpy ..... and caring ....do they = "I love you"? I'm too old to be asking this question.

 

Love ya = I really like being with you and this is a great friendship and thats that right now, don't try and change the good we have for something better because right now what we got is all we need.

I love you = i want to put a ring on your finger and have 4 kids.

 

thanks broony. very helpful. A little disappointing because I have fantasies for the future.

 

Well...I think "love ya" can also be testing the waters for "I love you"...did you respond?

 

That would be nice !!!

No, I didn't respond directly. If you mean, like saying "I love you" back. I want to, but it wasn't the right time. Since then though, our contact has become more frequent and affectionate and suggestive. He is seeming to back up his words with his actions. However, I fear taking it too seriously both for his sake and my own. That has gotten us into trouble in the past.

 

may i ask, have you met him yet or is it still long distance or an on-line friendship?

 

Yes, any questions that will help figure this out is welcome.

We knew each other from 30 years ago. At that time, for about a 1 year period, we were lovers and a bit more. Now we are 800 miles apart but we reconnected about 1 year ago. In Oct 2011 we got together for 4 days. Our contact as been nearly daily by phone or text since then. Except for a few periods where we cut contact to just email.

(background: we are both in our 50s, unhappily married, and raising teens)