I don't agree with the idea that it always starts tight and always loosens up with lots of sex. Like any other living thing, or part of a living thing, they vary. But she will probably get more used to it over time even if she doesn't get looser because that skin is not used to friction yet. In a way it seems like there is a stage of sexual development that doesn't occur until a woman starts having sex. Just remember you are in this for the long, long term and be gentle and make it pleasurable for her. The amount and range of stuff she will want to do will depend on how enjoyable and affectionate sex has been for her in the past.
The term "virgin" has more to do with purity for me. Spiritual virginity is way hotter to me...I don't mean pedophilia type stuff. I only consider women who're 18 or over...
I'm with the Reverend. Who the hell cares? Love the lady for who she is, not who she might have been.
For a woman to bleed during her first time sex is not uncommon, however the cartoon "typical" case is not what will always happen. What "should" happen the first time a woman has sex is that the small hole in the hymen should not be able to accommodate the width of the penis and that the skin will tear during her first time. The case with one of my ex-girlfriends was that her hymen didn't tear right away and sex was painful the first three times we did it. During the fourth time we had sex it tore and there was a lot of blood. My current girlfriend said that he broke hers with a dildo before she even had sex. . .
When I lost my virginity (at 27) I didn't bleed nor did it hurt at all. Nearly two years later after having sex bi-weekly I am still just as tight. Now you could say no way I was a virgin but you would be wrong. I may have messed around a lot but never had penetrative sex (anal or vaginal) until that age. On a side note I am not some freak either. I am average looking with a "killer body" according to the guys at my former job. I had countless opportunities but never found someone I felt comfortable enough until I met my special man. Trust is key to a relationship. Without it you won't have a marriage much longer.
Ha. Sounds a lot like my first time 20 years ago when I was 15 and she and I were both virgins. It wasn't until after 8 or 9 tries over the course of a month I finally got my dick buried in there all the way up to my rocks. Even then it was far too tight for me to pump her, much less cum. After a while it finally loosened up to where I could pump and cum. But, I still had to work my ass off and during the process, she found her inner happy place and had her first orgasms. Then it was like she couldn't get enough. After all her whining and almost crying when I couldn't get it in before, every other day during lunch at school she'd go, "My parents won't be home until 6 tonight". And yes, we learned how to fuck each other to exhaustion. It was nice that she and I "learned together". Enjoy it. It's not how you want it to be, but you'll eventually look back on it with possibly the most fondness.
Not in my view. Presumably OP met, got to know and fell in love with her, then they married. If the only point in marriage is to bed a virgin, then marriage is totally pointless. I've fucked a virgin. It was truly awful, for me because I was trying to be as gentle as possible and I was scared to move, and for her because she was as horny as hell but too sore-and too scared- to relax. Society puts idiotic prices on "virginity" as if it's the same as eating someone's soul....there's a male-dominated sense of propriety (Oh look, I own my wife, I'm her only partner). More likely, IMHO, is that this lunacy about virginity stems from a religious-based male sexual insecurity. After all, if you are her only lover EVER, she has no point of comparison.........
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FiaewVkWE6g"]The Village Washer Wenches - Do Virgins Taste Better? - YouTube
It is not like in the movies there is not a lot of blood. The fact that it was so tight proves she was a virgin u have stretched it out with ur cock so now she is loose if u want it to stay tight u can't have sex every day. Her vagina naturally stretches to accommodate you, without you it will be small again.
Ok, first of all, the amount of bleeding when a woman's hymen tears varies with each woman. Also, the hymen can partially or completely tear before a woman ever has sex. The first time I tore mine was when I first used a tampon, and the bleeding there was very minimal. When I switched to menstrual cups, I was still a virgin and menstrual cups are a lot larger than the average tampon, so I tore more of my hymen then. That time, it was worse and bled a bit more, but still not gushing - really, it's not like you see in porn where the guy ends up covered in blood. I mean think about it - you're tearing a very thin, very small piece of skin. Not to mention that to begin with, every woman's hymen is different. For some women, they're born with very little hymen and a relatively large opening in the hymen, while for others, they're both with a larger piece of skin with a bunch of tiny holes in it. Obviously the latter one will bleed more. Your wife was clearly in pain, and she did bleed, even if it was just a little bit, so I would trust that she was a virgin when you two first had sex. And it may not take long at all for a virgin to loosen up enough for it to not hurt. It took me two times to relax enough to take anything inside me, and when I finally did, it was not one, but three fingers, then a large cock. The cock hurt a bit at first, but as I got wetter and more relaxed, my vagina stretched out. It really shouldn't be painfully tight for the guy - the vagina is meant to expand!
This makes me wonder historically how many perfectly good virgins were killed in biblical times. (b/c now we know not all girls are born with hymens) --- @ OP, yeah I think your wife was a virgin, be happy. I have 2 definitions of virgins nowadays but I've met nobody within my age rage who qualifies to the first definition. Definition 1: no sexual activity at all, except self-masturbation, definition for me exists to mean that virgin = std/sti free. Definition 2: somebody who just hasn't had sexual intercourse or any dick to vagina contact at all. (obviously, because of oral this definition doesn't necessarily mean a virgin is std/sti free.
I'm like offended by the question if you thought she wasn't a virgin why would you continue to fuck her it sounds to me like ur just a pig who is looking for an excuse to leave her or to stick ur dick elsewhere because now u had ur fun and u want another virgin. U make me sick!
@Horny woman, I can't believe it took 4 pages for the first actually useful response to show up. I read the whole thread expecting to see a good explanation earlier. Nice one. @dark suger, I can't believe you would jump to such preposterous conclusions. The OP was nervous/scarred and also thought she might have lied. From the tone of the post I think it was pretty obvious he wasn't being malicious in any way. @OP, many girls (most even?) feel pain the first time or two because it's being stretched like that for the first time. After a little time/practice though there should be no pain for either partner. And I'm not even sure if a guy can feel pain from a pussy being too tight haha, I've never heard of it at least.
My current gf was a virgin when we met... didn't last long First time we had sex things went great, and while she was a little tight at first, as soon as she got worked up it went away. There was no bleeding, but it didn't worry me since she played softball for years and years (a catcher no less), and she also has used vibrators. So much stuff can cause this I see no reason not to believe her.
On that last point about guys feeling pain because the pussy is too tight, yeah it can happen, and did to one of my friends. But I don't think it's a super common for that to happen with guys and a large part of it probably has to do with the young women being all tense muscularly.
loose pussy means horny wife of small cock, be happy your wife start to participate good job and stop thinking about these shitty thoughts.
No if he really thought she was not a virgin and had lied to him and that was really upsetting to him why would he continue to fuck her. It obviously didn't deter him so clearly there is more to this I think he got a taste of some and now he wants to plant his flag on some more virgin soil. Nothing is ever obvious on the Internet
My hymen broke during my first sexual encounter. My ex-boyfriend put his penis in and it tore almost instantly. It was painful for about 30 seconds, but I didn't remember seeing any blood.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J782jBp_pW0"]Reservoir Dogs Opening Scene Like A Virgin [Full HD] - YouTube Stay Brown, Rev J
