Hi all, I went on a date with a girl from OKCupid on Friday night We went to a fancy burger place, then walked around the river front holding hands 10 minutes in, she said it was the best date she's had in a long time We joked about all the things you aren't supposed to talk about on the first date - sex, ex's and politics We stopped at a couple of bars and she had a couple of drinks, which caused her to cozy up to me A LOT Walked her home, and made out at her front door at about 11pm She texts me at 2am saying "I had a lot of fun tonight. I'd love to see you again" So at this point I'm pretty pumped. She was funny, smart (masters degree) and really laid back. Sunday, I text her telling her what days are good for me, and she replies "hey, i got your text. this week is crazy busy for me, but I can meet Saturday?" to which I said that was fine. ------ Fastforward to Tuesday I texted her just to keep contact, and I'm not sure if it went well. Me: (Referencing something we talked about on the date) Her: "Ah, of course" Me: "Hows your week? I have some ideas for Sat." Her: "My week is good, but I forgot Im going to be in [far away city] this weekend." Me: "Next week then?" Her: "Sure" Me: "Sweet. Have a fun trip!" Her: "Thanks! " Don't think it wen't well. She didn't seem too interested like she was before. Any thoughts? I know she said she isn't the type of girl who needs to be in constant contact with the guy she is seeing, and obviously we aren't exclusive, but I was just hoping for more on her end. I was thinking of texting her next on Sat asking how her trip is.
Yep, I agree ... it seems a bit unengaged. I also don't get why she suggested saturday given that she had plans already. Yes, maybe she "forgot" but how hard is it to remember you're going on a trip. It's a bit flaky. On the other hand, there's could be SO many explanations. Plus there are a multitude of circumstances on her side that could be interfering with texting. The unknown in these situations can cause so much insecurity and confusion. If you go forward with making contact on saturday, maybe you should call instead. Then try to firm up some plans so you are not in limbo. Hopefully she'll responds in a way that is more consistent with the first date. If not, I think you might have found a flake.
I wouldn't panic or think the worst just yet. As you said, she really enjoyed herself, isn't the type to be too needy. I'd play it cool and take it easy. Wait and see.
if she knew 10 minutes in that it was her best date in a long time, i wonder what kind of dates she normally has.
lol yaay, i had a good time but you are texting me on time and showing interest so I'm going to back off. :|
If I was the girl on the other end of that text I would've wanted you to ask more...find out why I was going on the trip and when I'd be back. Ask what I'd be interested in doing/going when we got together again. I mean you didn't really show much interest yourself, besides setting up another date. Is that the only contact you've had? Maybe she was tired or busy... maybe she was sick, maybe she has an ex that was trying to get back in the picture...who knows.
