I just wanted to say Hi! Oh and say that at the moment I am kind of just looking for lesbian friends to talk to and/or be pen pals with. I know that usually lesbians tend to have other lesbian friends but I don't and the friends I do have are sort of really religious so it is hard to even bring up the subject. >.< So if you are interested just reply, send me a message or possibly shout it into the sky, you never know, I might just hear you from here, :rockon:
hi hope you are well i know how ya feel,i come from a very religious background and even though the few friends i came out too are supportive it's still difficult to mention anything that relates to me to being a lesbian around them or anyone else and it can be abit frustrating!
well, i dont come from a religious background. It is just that when i started school at texas womans university I bonded with a very religious girl in my class and we became instant best friends and i was absorbed into her group of friends. Which they are all very religious as well. I tried bringing it up a couple of times but they just kind of ignore that i said anything. Plus, I am extremely shy and quiet around new people so it is even harder for me. I just can't imagine actually coming from a very religious background.
that must be rough.how did you try and approach the subject?did you randomly bring it up or was it during a serious conversation? (if you don't mind me asking) i used to be like that too, took me months before i felt comfortable even being round anyone i met,in one case a friend who i have known for many years still has a hard time getting me to say more than a few words to her whenever i visit but i have come around more the past year and find it easier now to talk or sometimes babble to people after about 5 minutes of meeting them lol however saying that i still do get shy around certain people it's not easy i assure you
Yeah probably, i dont let much get to me anymore. Well, that is actually kind of funny in my mind because on a couple of occasions it was just like "wow my ex is an Resident Assistant" and all of the Resident Assistant's just happened to be all female. Then on the other occasion, we were sitting down for lunch and one of the girls was planning to ambush one of the girls at her apartment and having a dog pile to see if she would get freaked out and told me to invite my ex to intensify the moment. That whole part was pretty much ignored by everyone but her and me. I actually have no problem talking to people, like having short conversations with passing strangers or "gossiping" and complaining with friends but just getting an actual conversation started is the hard part. Mentally, i feel like i am going to start rambling or say something to make them uncomfortable. The same with me about this past year. Since i moved back home and started school in a town over and breaking up my ex, i have really been an interesting person to be around. especially at night when i get really hyper. Oh, and what do you mean by "certain people"?
that is actually kinda funny,at least one girl was more open about the subject i suppose my friends are sort of different they are usually the ones that bring up the subject of me being a lesbian and sometimes i've to ignore them i know what ya mean,i used to have that feeling but now i actually do babble on when talking to people and i'm always mentally kicking myself or telling myself to shut the heck up lol night time hyperness is the best,i swear some people must think i've got multiple personality's as my moods change like the weather lol i just mean sometimes theirs people i click with straight away and others that i get either a bad feeling from or i just can't feel comfortable enough around them to relax and be myself.
Yeah, she is actually the wildest one of us all but she is still a great person. And I was silently laughing at the other girls' reactions. Really? That is kind of cool, unless they are like my parents and are asking how two girls have sex. >.< Babbling? Lol honestly, those are the kind of people that i bond with the easiest because the fill in most of the conversation and all i have to do is react or add an opinion. I love it though. True. Well, as long as you have something to do, otherwise i start saying all kinds of weird stuff. Multiple personalities huh? That's a pretty big difference. Must be entertaining. I am the same way somewhat. Actually, that is how i acquired my best friend. in 6th grade we sat a table in p.e. and immediately had the same reaction to the p.e. teacher.
yeah it's great that they are so accepting and it don't bother them one bit but one friend does bring up certain things/make embarrassing comments at the worse things though flip my good mate was asking me about my love life while we where at cinema once and then suddenly started asking about how too girls have sex,i near choked lol the movie hadn't started yet so thankfully there wasn't many people in the screening room but there did just happen to be a guy sitting in the row behind us lol do your parents actually ask that?? my parents don't bring up sex at all (then again they are weird and very religious lol) yeah i could talk for Ireland me when i get started haha it is slightly funny if not confusing the way my moods are, i'm a nutter but i'm happy to admit it haha was it a good or bad reaction?lol
That is great. Yeah, i understand that, my high school friends did that all the time. Wow, that is funny. What did the guy behind you do? When friends ask it doesn't embarrass me i just ask, "do you really want to know?" Sometimes they say yes and sometimes they say no and when they do say yes, i tell them to google it. Well, my mum asked me personally what my ex and i did in bed. But she already knows cuz she is a freak. She even asked my exes and long distance friends all kinds of weird stuff like "so do you shave down there" and "do you think you can get me some really good porn". And when i was about 15 and we were in the car with a couple of my friends she told them that you can tell your man is cheating by the taste of his thing. Well, i think that's great! People can really get to know you that way. *best stereotypical gay man voice* Oh honey please, i doubt you are a complete nutter. But seriously, to nutter is human. Oh, it was definitely a bad one. Like instant dislike of her from 6th to 12th grade.
what kind of things did they come out with? my friend i mentioned before and i once where in a packed food place and she randomly said "look theres a great view for ya" i looked up from feeding the baby and a waitress was leaning over table in front of me cleaning it and you could clearly see down her top, i wasnt so must embarrassed as shocked that my mate would come out with something like that and in front of so many people aswell, i laugh about it now though i didnt notice him until half way through the conversation lol i just happened to turn round and see him sat there,he must of been watching us or something cos he turned his head away as soon as i looked at him can' believe your mum would come off with something like that lol she sounds like a very down to earth and open minded woman though really? what did ya dislike about her?
Well, just all kinds of weirdness. Like always talking about man butter and parading around as gayly as possible in front of mass church events down town. Pretty much anything to make those around us uncomfortable. The one game that we started was if we were in a relationship with someone or just goin place with one other person like on a bus, you wait for new people to get on, then loudly flirt with the other person. lol you should have said something and smiled. Would have really thrown him off. My friend was actually tryin to talk to me about vaginas while in line to get on a bus and an older guy was just staring wide-eyed behind us and she turns around and very loudly says, "you probably don't know anything about that huh?" Very, embarrassing. She does and she is. She has been wanting me to turn 21 since i was about 15 so we good go drinking and dancing together but i don't dance unless i am trying to make someone i know laugh. For me it was a like dislike thing. I thought she was very attractive but not particularly smart. Plus she was the physical education teacher and we both agreed that, that was one class we had no interest in taking.
thats hilarious,bet you get alot of mixed reactions yeah wish i had lol flip i would of died of embarrassment. your friends sound like a right laugh they are also a bit like a few of mine lol wow my mom is the opposite she has been giving out to me about going to bars/drinking since i was 18. i love dancing but usless its at dance classes i'm crap at it i hated P.E at high school was also the one class i got a few detentions in because i didnt bring my correct kit ,got out of them though as i never give my mom the permission slips so my teacher couldnt make me stay behind lol saying that the last few months of year 12 i actually enjoyed it since it was our last yr half my class never turned up so we were allowed to wear tracksuits and sit in the gym listening to music as long as we went on atleast one machine. most of the time it was just my friends and I so we just messed about. what was your worse subject/class at school?
Thanks! I actually completely forgot about it because i was deeply engaged in Rift. And of course i don't really care that much about it until i get to set off fireworks. Oh yeah we do. At the big church event downtown (which i didn't know was going on until it was too late) I was walking around in an "I <3 lesbians" shirt. One of the woman protesting and passing out fake bills with scripture on it came over to me with a REALLY big one, handing it to me and said, "You probably need this more than anyone" I was so stunned i didn't say anything. And at the same event we were sitting at one of the fruit juice shops when my friend decided to basically straddle me. At that moment a few ladies from the event came over and asked if we were gay. T'was great. But the best one was when two women who were holding hands and prancing down the street read my shirt and quietly said to her friend, "we should stop holding hands because they might think we are lesbians." All in one night. lol "that moment when you think of a really could comeback, a day later." Yeah, we all have those friends don't we. They are part of the all the people who complete us. Well, this is probably a silly question, but do you actually go out a lot, or does she just mention to try to prevent it. I have only been to two bars, one for a concert and the other to see a comedy show. I am sort of a otaku. Hey, don't say that about your dancing. I bet you are amazing! I would love to love dancing. Tell ya a secret, i used to day dream all the time about being able to ballroom dance. I think there were very few teens who actually liked p.e. Not to sound insensitive, but what do you mean by kit? In middle school we had uniforms we got penalized for not bringing but that was about it. And in high school i didn't have to take p.e. because i was in a medical program which had us go to hospitals which replaced p.e. You really got away with not having to stay? I tried to skip out of a detention and the assistant principal actually called the house. It was a bogus charge though. Sounds like a nice easy class. My worst subject.... I had two: foreign languages and history. Even in college i did not pass history. How about yours? And what was your favorite? Woah, i just realized i typed a lot... im sorry
have fun with the fireworks wow sounds like an interesting night, yeah i probably would of been speechless too if that happened to me. lol how did you respond to them? i remember yrs ago i was walking my friends little girl around the church to settle her before the meeting started and i passed a few girls and straight away i heard one say to the other loudly "don't do that,i'm not a lesbian" i used to go out drinking alot in my late teens,mostly it was just at mates houses but did go to to a few bars/clubs maybe every other weekend,last time i had a night out of drinking was near a year ago. cool what concert and comedy show was it? thanks but i'm really not lol really? cool what stopped you from taking lessons? i just mean uniform we referred to it as a P.E kit in school, i hated it as it was a short skirt and t-shirt and anything we were outside we got froze as my country is famous for it's cold and wet weather lol. yeah everytime lol though was just luck as the days i was due in detention i informed the teacher my mum never signed permission slip and was told to bring them in next day, which of course i never did and teacher never brought it up again haha did get kept in over break time once along with my classmates as a girl who made something rude outta clay in art decided to put it on another teachers desk and the form tutor was called up and because no-one would admit or grass up who did it we all got punished . seriously? bet your mum wasnt pleased about that my worse subject was childcare mainly because the teacher was a bitch and liked to point out how useless the class was at doing the tasks,even when my parents met her during a parents evening they didnt think she was a very nice woman,i ended up not bothering to turn up for the final exam. hard to say what my favourite was as most classes pretty much sucked but i suppose it was RE as i found it easy due to known half the stuff we did in class since i was a kid lol IT was kinda fun too don't worry about typing alot i like it besides i've rambled on abit lol
I wish i could but all my plans fell through so now i might go out and watch a movie or something but probably just staying home watchin Ravi and playing rift. Responded honestly. I said that i am and she said that she wasn't. Wow, that's great. lol Sounds like a good time. But a year ago? Really? Just not interested anymore or no time too? Instead of go out now, we just bought a big bottle of whipped vodka and i make drinks. Um, the show concert was of duran grey and the comedy show was just one of those ones you see late at night in an extra room of a big dance club. Well, like my brother says, "You got to think you're the shit because you are the shit." Yeah really, well, i have a short attention span, no money, um, no available resources around where i live and being that close to someone i don't know makes me uncomfortable. Ohhhh. I figured that's what it meant but i wasn't to sure. a skirt? really? that's ridiculous. our choices were shorts or pants. Wow, i bow to your excellence. That's awesome. Not that you all got detention of course but yeah. Well, it was my grandma and after i explained what happened, she wasn't mad at all. Yeah, it is hard to like a class when the teacher is a bitch. When the parents see the problem, you know its no good. well at least there were a couple. Ok! ^_^
hey,sorry for late reply,haven't been feeling to well lately that sucks,hope you had fun with whatever you decided to do i don't really get the time and when i do i can't get any of my friends to go with me, it's kinda annoying as everytime i try to arrange a night out with my best friend she is up for it at first then she suggests we stay in and watch dvds,she does wind me up because i tell her i really want a night out in town or i'm fed up of seeing the inside of a house/building so why see thinks i'd find sitting in her bedroom more appealing i'll never know. this probably makes me sound like a right bitch lol yeap would love to who thought a skirt was suitable for doing p.e in (probs same person who designed our stupid school uniforms) thanks haha apart from a few girls no-one really cared less that we got detention,it was only for 15 mins anyway lol yeah,though compared to what some of the male teachers got up too she wasnt all that bad lol did you have any teachers that were bitchy?
It's alright. I hope you're feelin better and that it wasn't anything too serious. Not really. Just stayed home, played with ma pup. But the next four days i was barely home. Oh, that's a bummer. Maybe she just wants to get you in her bed. XD And I don't think it makes you a bitch. Have to get out sometime, sure staying in can be good sometimes but if you need to escape then you need to escape. that was one of the many reasons my ex and i seperated. She didn't want to go out and i needed to get out sometimes. By the way, i'm not a bum, i swears. Yeah, probably a bunch of perverted old men. Seriously? 15 minutes? I got three days. Wow. Um... bitchy teachers.... my orchestra teacher was pretty bitchy. Could not stand him.
i'm not to bad now thanks aww what kinda pup you have? umm no comment haha..exactly,i love staying in most nights and being lazy esp after a busy day but a night out to blow off some steam is good. sorry to hear that! yeah thats how long our break lasted,i'm surprised actually that we got of the hook so easily but i suppose without knowing who done it, it would of been difficult for my form tutor to get permission of parents to give us a proper detention. 3 days wow,it must of been bad lol
