too quick

Discussion in 'Sexual Health' started by kquick, Jul 3, 2012.

  1. kquick

    kquick Guest

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    Hello.

    I climax in under 1 minute when I have sex with my girlfriend. Sometimes I can still go on after and it's ok....but sometimes "it" goes limp after.

    The more it happens, the quicker i climax, and the less likely it becomes that I can continue after climaxing.

    Honestly I feel like commiting suicide. On my own I can totally control this (when I masturbate), I can keep at it for 3 hours no problem. I was told learning to control this would help. But her vagina feels better than my hand....30 seconds and it's over.

    Pills are all scams. No tricks work. Viagra apparently is too dangerous to be a solution (i could come but stay hard, thought it was a viable solution but apparently not). There is no surgeon where I'm from that can perform surgery to remove some nerves from the glans.

    I can't talk about it to anyone I'm too ashamed. I just write this here because I have to get these thoughts out of my head. I just gotta tell people, I just looked for a random forum and found this.

    I'm under so much stress from this that it's become impossible to enjoy life. That girl wants to marry me, i want to marry her, everything about our relationship is so great.... but I can't tell her about this, I made stuff up. When it works I don't say anything she just thinks she got really wet. When it doesn't I always make up something. Sooner or later I think that she will understand what is going on. And then my manhood will be so destroyed I don't know what I'm gonna do...
     
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    the penis tissue goes in cycles. It will go limp. go take a piss and a walk, get some blood pumping thru the heart and general circulation. squeeze your ass checks together, stretch your back and allow nervous system to reset itself. Its not a RACE its A JOURNEY.. your penis will get erect again and you can go on having sex..
     
  3. kquick

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    lol. The second time around i come in 2 minutes instead of 30 seconds. Plus I'm 3/4 erect and she don't feel as good.
     
  4. Irminsul

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    I've heard completely taking your mind off the act is the key to lasting longer.
    Like you're doing the deed, but you're off with the fairies until you wanna cum.
     
  5. kquick

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    Thanks for your reply. I feel good just knowing someone read what i posted.

    I didn't really come here for tricks or tips, nothing works for me.

    I'll just wait untill she finds out and try to deal with the shame without killing myself. Then have her sexually unsatisfied for a few years untill she cheats on me cause my dick is fucking useless.
     
  6. kquick

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    And thx Irmin i'll try that why not. Maybe I'll think of Oprah.
     
  7. kquick

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    But seriously I hate that useless dick, when I cum i feel like shit actually, it's not even enjoyable anymore.

    Cumming gives me a feeling of nausea now, when something goes on down there i just wanna cry like a kid, I hate it, and I still cum in 30 seconds. Dunno if that thinking of something else trick will work for me.
     
  8. kquick

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    Girls have it so good, they can just fake it if it isn't working out for them. I don't even care about my pleasure i just wanna satisfy my girl because i love her and we want to get married, I don't want her to be unsatisfied about anything. I wanna be a good loving husband. Looks like I can't maybe love just isn't for me.
     
  9. Brudof

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    Dude you gotta chill out a bit. Killing yourself because you cum too fast? That's just insane. Some guys can't even get any at all. You're blowing it way out of proportion. If this girl wants to marry you then I can guarantee you she would support you if you told her what's up. You two could work together to overcome it. It doesn't seem like it's something that you wouldn't be able to solve with some practice. If all else fails maybe start taking an SSRI. That stuff will make it really hard for you to cum.
     
  10. kquick

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    I should leave her and stay alone all my life. Playing stupid games, having no family and wanking alone. Maybe work at home, not meet/talk to girls ever again. Life is just shit if even though i have only the best intentions for a girl, even if i just wanna be good to her and love her with all my might, it's impossible for me to make her happy because of that big useless dick of mine. It's much bigger than average, but i cum in 30 seconds. It's like it's mocking me "hey idiot see you have a big useless lump of flesh just hanging there making you look like a fool have a nice life".
     
  11. kquick

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    Brudof you think I should let her know?
     
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    What about all this shit I made up to make excuses? Won't she think i'm just a liar?
     
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    lol and dude imagine the SHAME. It's unbearable just to think about it XD
     
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    Hell and I heard 30% of guys have premature ejac. Thank you porn industry for setting all these standards that make me feel ashamed to share this with my fiancée and that are preventing me from working with her on the problem.
     
  15. Brudof

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    Yeah tell her, she will find out eventually. You said she loves you so I don't see why she wouldn't want to help you fix your problem. I don't know what kind of excuses you've made, but she should understand why you were embarassed to tell her.
     
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    I'm gonna do that dude, tell her, no other way out now. It'll be worse anyways if she finds out I've been hiding it might as well put up with the shame. Thx for answering the thread it's nice when people actually care.
     
  17. LetLovinTakeHold

    LetLovinTakeHold Cuz it will if you let it

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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MteotIPSWnY&feature=youtube_gdata_player"]Too Fast (Jon Lajoie - YouTube

    Your girlfriend should probably be aware that you are ejaculating inside of her vagina.
     
  18. mrgoo

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    hello bloke I have the same issue only i don't have a large cock which makes it all the worse.
    i use extra strength condoms (Trojan extra strength are some of the thickest) they are really thick i can usually last 5 - 10 mins with one on.
    Not the best but through in a lil tongue and a vibrator on occasion and she will def enjoy herself.
    But then you have to deal with not enjoying sex as much, those thick condoms are dreadfully awful to spunk in compared to the silky wet vagina
     
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    Just talk to her bro the sooner you do the sooner you can sort out the issue don't fuck around she probably don't even care i just have longer forplay
    Anyway didn't anyone ever tell you the first one don't count LOL
    I've been with my misses over 23 yrs she still makes ne cum quick if i let her
    Don't beat yourself up about it broski
    If you find communication difficult you could always wright a letter with some flowers or send a text . Im sure she would be understanding. Your being mulipulated buy corporations that want to create the fear that you can't satisfy your woman and you should buy there product don't be a puppet . It is ok and there is nothing wrong with you mate
     
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    She has had a sterilizing rod put inside her uterus by surgery, so no It wasn't all that crucial that she would be aware of it.

    Anyways I'm posting back because I did tell her. Now I have found out that the reason I was cumming too quick is because I was thrusting in too quick. We can go for 15-20 minutes now, and I still feel like there is room to improve my control and we are working on it together now :)

    Thanks to the guy that suggesting trying to overcome it together...

    Not only does it last longer now, but she enjoys it more, she told me that by going slower like I do now she felt it was more passionate and romantic and she is really satisfied nowadays.

    I felt like there was no way out for me, but in the end it's honesty towards her that settled everything. I don't wanna hide anything from her ever again now.

    Anyways, thank you people for the encouraging words.
     
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