Hi all, Hope some may read this and give me a reply, just need some advise on an occurance that recentl took place. My gf and l have been dating 4 months now and havent had any major issues and we have been happy together. She has two residence because it cuts down on the driving distance between her work and school. I have stayed at both places plenty of times and got to know her rommates which one is her sister. I get a long with them great. Her best friend/roomate has been getting under my girlfriends skin a lot lately making her feel gulily about not spending time with her and not staying up late to watch a movie with her and just expecting my gf should just be there everytime she snaps her fingers.Anyways she kept calling her when we were at her other house and wanting her to drive over and watch a movie at 9 and drive a hour when she knows my g'/f has to work in the morning. She was really hurt by how her roomy has been treating her. Anyways we were going to bed and out of the blue she says l have something important to tell u to me, o fcourse l reply with you can tell me anything. She says her and her best friend/rommate used to be intimate and it was off and on and my girl had feeling for her but she was straight so they would just sleep together when she was single here and there, She said l wanted to be honest with you about it!! I didn't know what to say, l felt like a fool in a way and told her l didn't want to know. It stopped 3 months before mq and her started dating and l do trust her but for some reason l felt hurt like l'm not going to be able to look at the both of them now the same way? I told her i'm not mad l just feel wired about the whole thing and why are you telling me now?? They are best friends so its not like it's someone from the past l don't know. I just kept picturing them and l told her i felt like a rebound. My question is.....is what lm feeling normal, should l feel a little weirdit out? this girl has been saying to me for the last couple months she loves me and wants to spend her life with me. I have slowly been falling in love with her but l feel like my walls have come up a bit about this. what do you girls think? l thank anyone who reads and responds, l would truly appreciate it
hi, i read your post, and i think it's okay to feel weird. all your emotions are valid, i would probably feel weird in that situation too. but i think that your girlfriend was actually just being honest with you. maybe it was a way for her to give you more insight as to why the room mate was acting the way she was. i guess as long as your feelings don't interfere with your current relationship, it'll probably pass.
I agree she was just being honest but its been 5 months we have been togeher and i feel like they have kept this secret from me. If she would of told me when we were just dating i wouldve have been shocked but ok that she told me from the beginning! With my values i would never sleep with a bf, even if i was lonely.
