No Job , No Bueno. Possibilities from anyone ?

She's supposed to provide like a normal mother does.. sick freak?!
And she has more than enough money , but she indulges it on herself more than half of the time.
not for me , or my lil brothers & sisters(I'm the oldest)
I mostly have to try to get them stuff out of my own risk , im basiclly the mom to them & that's another reason I want a job so bad.

...Exactly why I haven't entirely lived with her or my siblings..
And no , she's not struggling at all to make "ends meet" .
I'm pretty sure you weren't born yesterday .. Many women walk around looking fantastic , doing for themselves & neglecting the fact that they have children , who also have needs..

I'm not my only mom's child either.. by the way , if you've noticed from the sentences above. And again, I'm the oldest . And I know selfish & self-centered when , I see it.

I moved back in with her by the way, when I was 14 years old along with my siblings...
So that might explain the 2 year bullcrap you were talking about.
Because the court thought she was " responsible again to take care of her children"

I didn't even want to reveal half the stuff I just mentioned , because I feel like I shouldn't have to spill out all of my business to someone who does not know my situation at all , but god ..
you're so rude & unthoughtful.. on all the threads you feedback on to me ,
you have the same rude attitude towards me , like what's wrong with you?
smh.
Is there just a problem you intentionally just have towards me ?

 

I still don't know your situation and I am just offering you my opinion on a open forums where you asked a question.

You may think I'm being rude to you only because it is not the answers you want to hear.

If your mother is really that bad then look for a job, you hate babysitting well guess what suck it up if you want the money that bad. Deliver papers work at Mc Donald's etc.

I'm just offering you a different view as a mother who does struggle, who has come from an abusive ex. Give her a break sometimes she may not know how to handle her shit. Remember while she is a mother she is also human, who can make mistakes.

 

And I'm giving my opionion back .. Nothing's wrong with that.
"If your mother is really that bad then look for a job" , Pretty much why, I wrote this thread & If you took out the time to actually read what I wrote you would've saw I filled out some applications already & I've responded towards those other two sentences , somewhere in this thread & don't feel like repeating myself , escpecially to someone who's never going to want to understand , even if it's sent through their ear directly to their brain.

"I'm just offering you a different view as a mother who does struggle, who has come from an abusive ex. Give her a break sometimes she may not know how to handle her shit. Remember while she is a mother she is also human, who can make mistakes."

It's funny how you try to twist things .
Not once have you acknowledged the fact of "my view" , but jumped to my mother's view.
Try to look at from my view..which you've never done. lol

And I shouldn't have to give her a break .. She should act like more of a parent to my siblings & I , The world doesn't stop because of my father(the abusive ex) .
Look I'm getting back into personal , deep personal stuff.


the fact is : She's a mother and not only does she not need to worry about me more but MORE THAN JUST me , my siblings..
She doesn't put her children first .
And yes , she's been through alot.
But that doesn't give her a right to neglect my siblings & I.
& She's been like this WAY before my dad was in the picture .
My dad & her split up when I was little ( 7)
They married when i was (5)
At 4 -- Was the only child & I barely saw my dad .
She was always gone , not even just because of work .
And she always came back with new things , clothes & food for her.
Other people had to take care of me & I got taken away from her.
And she got me back a year later..

But her -- "as a mother who does struggle, who has come from an abusive ex. "

That's where you've gotten it twisted .
She doesn't struggle & she's BEEN like this before my dad.
she wasn't even with my dad until she got prego & then when I was 5.
So . There's another piece of my info I just dished out ,
find another reason to twist it..

 

And you didn't read the part where I said I was abused before and how I struggle as a mother.

Again the mememememe thing is what I hear and if it is as bad as you say it is, get up and do something.

Tell people first off about it for your brothers and sisters sake if it is that bad there so they can go somewhere where they will be taken care of. Get any job incl babysitting and get out.

If it is that bad and you really want money you would babysit.

Other then that what I see is a teenager who is having what's the tag let me see if my twitter is up to scratch #firstwoldproblems.

 

This isn't about you ..
"Again the mememememe thing is what I hear and if it is as bad as you say it is, get up and do something."
I obviously mentioned my siblings more than once , I care more about them than myself . So that's irrelevant.
And Like before, filled out applications, as I write again, I'm on a mission..

And again , many people WHERE I LIVE , don't allow strangers to babysit their children , maybe if I lived in a small city & that one time I baby-sitted , was for no pay with my cousins.

And what I see , is a an adult who clearly has a problem understanding other's view , or maybe just mine , because again, you always do this alot to me.(
Just stop being so eager to argue with someone over the internet and try to understand where they're coming from without trying to twist stuff up.
In all I'm pretty sure you meant good , but I didn't feel that..
Not only just because of this , but from other threads.
It's like you're always like this .
But have a nice day.
And bye , Please don't respond , I'm drained .
and it's obvious you're not going to understand me , voluntarily & I'm not going to understand you, voluntarily.
So that's just.. that.
And please change your view of teenagers in the meantime , I swear , we're not all the same.

 

Get off your ass

 

^ Okay.

 

And I thought Kids were getting smarter

 

This girl needs some clothes that aren't ripped = rotten with age.

She's looking for a job so she can buy them.

What's the deal?

 

Kids, in general, have NO CLUE about money.

My 16 and 17 year old brother and sister think my mom's loaded because they see a $1000+ 2-week pay stub. Even though she pays $800/mo rent $425/mo for their health insurance + food, bills, gas etc... AND has little to no work almost half the year because she drives a school bus. And they get embarrassed to use food stamps or get food or clothes from the church.

If you need clothes - look at churches with clothing pantries, get your mom to sign you up for adopt-a-family (you get to make a 'wish list')

It seems like what you are calling "needs" are really just a means to a sense of social acceptance. You've been wearing the same 2 year old clothes? I have clothes older than I am and most of my stuff was handed down from friends. Do any of your friends ever get rid of clothes? Hit them up, their "last season" stuff is prolly alot more stylish than what goodwill has to offer.

It would really be healthy for you to just chill and accept what you have. You're going to be an adult in the world in just a couple years. Are you going to complain that no one is giving you stuff then?

I have sympathy for your situation to be sure, but the blaming, entitled attitude will do nothing to make it better.

What do you consider "walking distance"? Try walking a little further. Would it be worth it to you to walk an hour or two each way on the weekends so you could start saving money so you can actually take care of yourself in a couple years? A few paychecks in, and a bike will seem like a very good investment.

 

^Okay.

 

Some of you should lay off the op, jeez. Kids grow fast. I didn't fit into two year old clothes when I was 16. None of us really know the situation, but I think not getting off your ass for two years and buying a couple of pairs of jeans for $2 a piece from goodwill when your kid outgrows their jeans is kinda bad parenting.

Some of you guys need to work on withholding judgement when you don't really have the facts at all.

As far as the job situation, the job market sucks right now, even for adults with marketable skills. Ive looked into online jobs and haven't really found anything legit. just keep applying to jobs near you and don't be afraid to pursue them and be aggressive to show how much you want the job.

 

Thanks . and um , Where were you earlier ? lol