Getting a girlfriend...

How does one go about doing this?

I would ask this on the relationship forum, but it's slow and the entire love and sex forum just seems to be lurkers jerkin' it to fake erotic stories.


Also, I figure that there are more wise people with critical thinking skills here.

But yeah. Advice, can I get some? I have literally no way of knowing how to do this. Such is life for a basement-dweller.

 

I'd say you've got to get out and meet more like minded people. A good relationship is pretty much a click and acceptance between the two of you - no trying or changing involved; effortless.
Try making positive affirmations like "I will find my perfect woman soon, when the time comes", and the universe will eventually provide you with some opportunities to find your match. That's just the law of attraction...
Good luck to you man, I'm working on the same thing!

 

David, Iv'e Watched You Grow Up For The Last 3 Years,

And You Appear To Be A Good Looking, Intelligent Young Man....

The Only Advice I Can Give Is To Socialise More, Perhaps Join Clubs Or

Organizations, And Meet Girls That Share Your Interests Or Hobbies....

I Wish You Well In Your Quest For A Companion....



Cheers Glen.

 

get a guitar, hang out on corner and play it., collect girls, discard the ones you dont want..

 

iam not one to be asking but definataly try a park...Go there with the hipster attitude and splash out on a girl, see what kind of people you can meet. Good luck friend :2thumbsup:

 

do you have a laptop?
use free wifi at a starbucks or something instead of dwelling in your basement.

you'd be surprised how many lonely girls with laptops chill at starbucks.
try this for a week or two and see what happens.


you got it.

 

do nothing.

 

Hi everyone girls and guys. I need some perspective. Forget what I said earlier

There's this girl that I courted before & I'm sort of in love with her. She doesn't really like me, I think. Her boyfriend just found out about it & has been writing to me on facebook saying he's going to start stalking me(which isn't the problem) but he wants to fight me. He says she doesn't know anything about this. He wants to meet up somewhere. I have never seen him other than in pictures and don't know a whole lot about him. He has blocked me from her and I have no way of contact to her. The thing is, I messed with his friends too. I have him exactly where I want him when we write to each other, he thinks I'm nothing to dangerous. He doesn't insult, he seems like he means business apart from the fact he seems to talk like he's a 15 year. In a way I'd love to kick his ass because I know it would hurt her, which may sounds weird, but it may be the only way of attaching a string at this point in time??

Of course she was the one who told him about me first day cause she wants me to stay away. He works in a shirt clothing store as a sales assistant. I think I might pay an unexpected visit to neatly shake him up where he can't retaliate. She works as a hair dresser where my only option is to pay her an unexpected visit too. What is the best thing to do here to keep the momentum going giving that she already dislikes me. Is there anyway that I can play them against each other. Can I use the fact that he's keeping this from her, against him ect??

And please don't say to get real or give up. Thanks for reading. Please let me know either way

 

OP: get out of your basement and socialize or go join a good dating site.

Uhm, I've not read former posts of you but what is your purpose here? I'd say get real and give up is the only reasonable advice for you.

 

Another Day, Another Sad Little Troll...



Cheers Glen.

 

ok i wont.

 

Been doing this for months (going to the park, that is). Hasn't worked yet for me. I never approach women I don't know, but everyday I see women I would like to approach. Dating is tough for some people because when you're a unique individual, it's often hard to find people to connect with. I don't have a problem asking women out, but I have to be somewhat acquainted with them first. My problem is that I never meet women or have the opportunity to talk with them. I need a new job where I can actually meet new people.

 

I am kind of the same, Pressed rat. I'm not sure it is because I'm more unique than average though.

 

It’s the easiest thing in the world; If you see a girl you like walk up to her and start a conversation – she’s not going to bite you
If she turns you down there’s only millions of other girls out there who won’t :2thumbsup:

Hotwater

 

just get out there. who knows the right girl will come your way..
best of luck.

 

this is a huge cliche' and generally speaking

extremely narrow sighted.

i know from both current and previous experience

confidence is a must with the like minded

but what's to say every women is overly confident?

me and my partner are both pretty coy

we found solace in the fact we shared such attributes.

changing yourself for others = timebomb relationship.

 

The hardest thing about it is that there is no way of telling if it'll work out!! There's nothing worse than when you go out with a girl and she really likes you but you don't feel the same way. That's why I believe in dating sites and shit. No, I'm not active on them but I'd do it. Getting a job where you meet heaps of girls isn't actually going to solve the problem either. I am a taxi driver and I meet heaps of girls but don't hook up with them. Yeah sure - it's happened but again, not with any who are right for me.

I think the key is to be happy and secure and they will come.

 

The thing is, there are so many people with too much confidence, and too many of those people with too much confidence are total douche bags. This could be why the douchiest dudes end up with the most girls.

 

Meh.

I could approach ANY girl, regardless of how beautiful or "hot" she is, if I knew I could carry on a discussion with her because she shares the same interests as me. This is why I actually have to know someone a little first. To me, the idea of just approaching a woman I don't even know out of nowhere seems almost impossible to me. I don't see how people can do that, but I guess perhaps confidence does have something to do with it. It just seems like so many people with so much confidence have so little to back the confidence up.

 

The first one, for sure. The second one sounds too normal and boring.

OP: Don't listen to people who tell you to get out. I'm a 'basement dweller' and have a gf. Don't ask me how though.