How can I tell my wife that I'm bi without loosing her. She is not sexual minded like me I'm afraid that she will leave me. I want to ask her what is her most sexual fantasyland then tell her mine which is for her to fuck me with a strap on while I'm dressed in some of her lingerie. And I still don't know what her reaction will be. Any suggestion's on how to break the ice and ease in to this with out being a complete shocker.
you can bring up an imaginary acquaintance of yours, a male, who wants to do what you want to do, and see what her reaction to that will be.
I've been in this situation twice, with male partners as a bisexual, both times I didn't tell them because the topic never arose at first, but eventually I was open with them.... First partner was not sexually minded like me, had no fantasies, not much sexual desire. Id been speaking with a lady friends, friendly chat, occasional flirting. I decided to tell him and he shrugged it off, thought I was lying etc, still doesn't believe me to this day, we were together 4 years and had a child together, we split soon after but for unrelated reasons. Second and current partner, I told very upfront and actually during sex. Turns out he liked it.... We are the happiest couple
