Asking a girl out...

...via text.

Is this acceptable?

Of course, a lot of folk will say 'No you fool, phone her. How can you go out with her if you can't even speak on the phone' etc etc etc

Well, to you I say, I know. I don't even speak on the phone to my friends, it's all via text..so, I guess this isn't such a wild idea.

She also has my tshirt, which im particularly fond of.

I guess I'm just looking for some sage advice from some cool people.

Also, share your stories about how you asked someone out...more cringeworthy the better.

frogg

 

Text her about your shirt. Ask her if she will meet you somewhere to return it and tell her you would like buy her a coffee, or drink, or lunch, or dinner in return for her trouble.

 

^I'd go with that.

Don't do it over text, she'll think you're a pussy.

 

Good points. I meant to say this was going to just be a 'let's get coffee' proposal not a
'I really like you, outpouringofteenageangst' type message.

Currently typing up a text the now.. nervous times.

Bonus though, she defo likes me so..self deprecation is my enemy here.

Cheers for the fast responses!

 

Yeah, and when you are out with her ask her if it'd be okay to call her sometime.

 

text her everything you people talk . if she likes you so much , she will guide the talk . you follow .

 

Good luck, if you sent it and didn't chicken out

Casual means are okay, but only if you ask in a casual way, about a casual date. Asking if she wants to get coffee or whatever should be fine, if you don't make a big deal of it.

Anyway, the proper way to ask someone out is whatever feels okay to you, because if it would be fine with you but grounds for them to turn you down, they're obviously not your type, ehh? Just think how you'd want them to ask YOU out.

 

Well, I did it. It was a success.

Can't make the arranged activity due to work now fffuuuu.

Cinema on a 1st date...yay or nay?

 

How was it is a success if you cant go?
Or am I misinterpretig this?

 

dude is already in the friendzone and they haven't even gone out yet.

 

Bet you she doesn't realize it's a date.

But one of the problems with the texting thing, is you really have no clue what her reaction was.

Nay.

Also, how did she respond to all of this?

 

Let me see if I got this straight...He texted her and they set up a time to meet but then he found out he has to work during the time they scheduled?

I'd say a movie is fine because you don't have to talk much at first but afterward you can talk lots discussing the movie. It will give you something to talk about.

 

If you still have a chance,

I say do something more, out-going. Dinner and a Movie, is the most common and unoriginal thing you can do. If you really want to impress a girl, do something bold and daring.

I asked a girl out, when she asked me what we were doing, I just told her to wear athletic clothes she can move around easily in. Around 8-9 I went to my old high school, climbed on top and set up a nice kinda picnicy setting. (Its a senior tradition in my town to climb the school a few days before graduation, and we had like 300 people up there and we took a picture it was pretty epic. So climbing a building isnt that big of a deal)

I took her up there around 11-12, and just sat down and talked, looked at stars etc, then she started talking about how she never been on top of a school, and I just kissed her, and asked her out.


So I highly recommend finding something unique and special to do, not something run of the mill.

 

I know you already did it, but asking someone out via text is really weak. You are lucky and she accepted, but you'll want to avoid that in the future.

Movies are for girlfriends, not prospects. You want to do something fun, ideally outdoors, and part of your time together should be spent doing something active. I've had great success doing "naughty" stuff - stealing fruit from a garden together, sneaking in somewhere together, etc - but the most important thing is you are doing something that you want to do. Rollercoasters, mini golf, bowling, surfing, skating, even just going for a walk on a beach or in a forest, go to a thrift store with a camera and take photos of the two of you posing in various outfits. Etc. Main point is YOU want to do it; it's not about HER, it's about the two of you having fun together. Don't feel as if you must sacrifice your own enjoyment so she will enjoy herself.

You want to convey interest, and you want to determine whether there is any mutual interest. Like Duck said, it is unlikely she even knows it's a date at this point. It's a very common thing, the man assumes his interest is obvious but she doesn't realize. Eliminate all doubts, make your intentions clear. IMO the best way to do this is to tell her she is sexy. Do it on an emotional high for best results, definitely easy to screw this one up by saying it at an inappropriate time. But it leaves no doubts as to what you want from her.

If you are worried about keeping conversation going (that might be why you want to go to a movie) just remember to be interested, as opposed to interesting. Find out about her and discover common ground.

But whatever you do, relax. Be yourself, don't try to impress her.

 

My first date with the girlie was to the zoo.

I can't imagine a better first date. If I ever need to go on another, I would even consider reusing that one ethereal-golden-lightbulb moment.

This is even though we saw 4 animals submit to the call of nature; didn't make it to the reptile and critters's room before closing; and got what would've been our first make out session interrupted by the PA announcing close. =P

 

Au contraire mon ami.

Set it all up, should hopefully go swimmingly. Meeting her tomorrow.

JimmyP, some sound advice at the end there, cheers man.

Cue me having a massive zit tomorrow

 

always a great idea to take someone you want to get to know

to a dark room where you aren't allowed to talk.

never quite understood that one.

 

mine was a long walk.

nothing more.

just simple unprompted conversation.

 

I did it in person the first time I asked a girl out. I just said-
"I have a very important question for you" She replied "What?" I said "Will you go out with me?"

She said yes, but we're no longer together, but it seemed to do the trick!

 

That's the first thing we did while courting