once you're alone with a girl how do make your move?

This one time I was alone with one of my friends in her apartment, where she lives by herself. I asked her if I could use her bathroom and she said yes. She left a thong on the floor and I called her out on it. She was really embarrassed. I was trying to subtly flirt with her so I told her I liked what I saw, but maybe it was too subtle because she thought I was talking about her apartment. I probably should have been more direct and said something like I bet you look good in it. Anyway, nothing happened between us. I kinda wanted to hook up her with but now my chance is gone forever.

The other thing is when I was with her in apartment I was waiting for her to shower so we could go out to party I'm not sure if I could have made another move then.

When you are alone with a girl do you just keep flirting and see where it goes? If she responds to your flirting do you try to make out with her and hope it goes further, depending on whether or not she wants to have sex?

 

Pull her close? If she's responding well to the flirting and if she doesn't pull away go for it. Just pay attention to her.
I know I totally suck with subtle moves. Old fashioned but I love a man to make the first move..

 

Why do you think your chance is gone forever?

 

Because its very likely I'm never gonna see her again. We went to the same college and just graduated. I moved to a different city, she moved home.

 

i've never tried it on with a girl in my life

so your guess is as good as mine.

shame the chance passed though.

 

Its not as difficult as you think. Women are men too

But the thong thing woulda been good, snap the girls bra every now and then get her thinking.

You realy gotta learn yourself there are jsut so many situations

 

Quickly.

Before she moves to another state anyways.

 

A nice little bite on the neck. You can pretty much tell what they're thinking after that

 

personally, i tend to do whatever will make her not want to have sex with me, then go home and masturbate.

holy shit i'm gay.

 

one time a friend of mine was at my house, supposedly crashing on the couch, and he went and hopped into my bed while I was brushing my teeth.

FYI, that technique doesn't work at all. Don't do that, it results in awkwardness and the girl feeling creeped out.

 

When I was alone in her apartment waiting for her to come out of the shower I thought about going in her room and waiting for her there, because her alarm went off and she has two cats that were kinda freaking me out. I thought I could use that as an excuse, since I knew she was gonna come out of the shower and be in pretty much nothing but a towel. I didn't do it though.

 

You know any other girls you like the look of? Just asking cos you mentioned you might not see cat girl again and might be a good idea to focus on other girls?

Sorry I can't give any tips - I have never been in your situation....mainly cos I am not in the 'vagina business'....good luck though

 

Ok, I'm a chick and if I was that girl and you said "oh I like your thong" I would have known right then what you were getting at even if you didn't get at it. She was not into you like that...or shy about sex (some people are).

Just to be sure she knows your intentions, you could have come out wearing it...it will be obvious and you fuck, or she'll scream at you LOL

 

Sounds like too much "strategy" involved for you to get anywhere. You'll never see her again. You're too constrained by fear.

Timidity is often translated as "creepy".

Here's your "suave" personality:


You sound as neurotically hesitant as a character in a Woody Allen movie.

Forthrightness works for me.

When you get old and gray, she'll just be one in a long list of "I wish I'd said something" regrets.

 

Wearing her thong seems a little too much to me. Maybe she wasn't into me, but she did try to make out with me once. She was drunk and I wasn't, so I didn't do anything with her. I don't think she is shy.

We were pretty good friends, but that night I figured I would try for a hookup since I knew I wouldn't see her again. Its already been like a month since I've last talked to her or anybody else from school.

 

Hit her with your club and drag her back to your cave.

 

I agree sometimes you just got to take the bull by the horns or the chick by the hair lol :2thumbsup:

 

LOL Oh man, you should have just gotten her drunk then. But seriously even in hindsight its good to know things. Next time trust your instincts a bit more and realize its not as big of a deal as it may seem, and that will help. When you loosen up you notice more things. It gets better with experience.

 

Walk the fine between being a dick and being confident of yourself. Women like confidence. I know all the movies always show the girl picking the guy who's "timid and nice". Real life doesn't work like that. Women like to be perused, and if you are not sure of yourself, it makes them unsure of you.

If a girl is finding an excuse to touch you, like brush your shoulder that's a good sign she is hoping you will be the man and make a move. They are just as afraid of rejection as men in my experience.

 

Back when I was a lad,,,

I was shy,,unable to approach a woman that I found attractive, thinking I didn't have the necessary "credentials",,so I always seemed to settle for the ones that seemed, obviously, to be making themselves "available", rather than "making moves". Any "moves" I made were tentative, awkward, and cautious. I think I was afraid of not only rejection, but also humiliation, since I didn't want people laughing at me behind my back, or telling stories about "that awkward guy who doesn't know shit about women". So, I was always "posing" as the "strong, silent type". In reality, I just was scared, but horny as all getout.

Now, in retrospect, I realize all the fun I missed out on because of my false perceptions, and my false expectations of what a girl might do, if I didn't "get it right".

I was basically a pussy.

I actually had a girlfriend tell me to treat her rough, like a caveman, one day when I got angry and hit a wall with my fist, because she'd been off with a friend of mine, who wanted her to give him a BJ. I was just not willing to take things into my own hands and grab her while the grabbing was good.

So,,lots of girls like a man who takes control, to a degree. But you have to be sensitive to the signals. Once you get the green light,,it's time.

These days, the only thing I'd be afraid of is a charge of "rape", if you go for it without her consent. So, the secret is knowing what, exactly, entails "consent", and what signals to look for. Acting "strong" and "silent" gets nothing done, really. Don't be afraid to communicate.

Though you can't generalize, and there are exceptions, I believe that most women would appreciate a good, intense, roll in the hay, when they don't have to do all the leading. In a sense, it comes from a desire to be "irresponsible" for a change, letting someone else make the moves.

Just watch out for those that turn on you like a black widow spider, and devour you after they get theirs. With those, there's always the possibility that you'll end up in court.

So, it's all about the initial assessment. Do they want it, or not? If so,,have at it. Just learn to balance the rough with the smooth, the gentle with the passionate. It's all in the timing, and the signals, like trains on a track.