i want to find peace PLEASE

My name is Christine, hey everyone. I haven't posted In a while and realized I've once again gotten dragged back into society. But all hope is not lost! I feel burdened and loaded down with worry, regret, stress, and pressure of society. I'm only 16 but, i promise I suffer carrying all that weight on my shoulders almost everyday. I would love to let it go but I can't figure out how. I want to feel at peace with everyone and everything but I just need help and understanding. If anyone has any advice or can relate, leave a post!!

 

Hi Christine...I think the secret to all that we do in life is to strive for balance. Mundane cares are easier to bear if you try to balance them with some quality tranquility time and some fun.

Peace and Love to you. :sunny:

 

Me too.

 

This old hippy has discovered that despite the love, peace and groovy- the sex drugs and rock and roll.....life will always be there. We have to eat, sleep, and keep a roof over our heads in some manner. That's all we have to do if we want to stay safe and live.

We can spend as much time or as little time living in society as we choose or want.

I try to spend time with people I like. Not those I'm supposed to.

I only participate in activities I want to

I try to find pockets of nature and spend time there with a book or meditating.

I'm trying to stay drug and alcohol free so that I can experience life as it really is.

Peace

 

Imbalance works too, for some. Someone on here used to have a Hunter S Thompson quote I liked a lot.

 

Here's a personal favorite:
“We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and -- in spite of True Romance magazines -- we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely -- at least, not all the time -- but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don't see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness.” ― Hunter S. Thompson, The Proud Highway: Saga of a Desperate Southern Gentleman, 1955-1967

 

Yeah that one's pretty sweet. I think it was this one:
"I hate to advocate drugs, alcohol, violence, or insanity to anyone, but they've always worked for me. "

 

Okay Thanks guys, I'm gonna try to have more me time of which ill probably meditate, go on a nature walk, Etc!! And I like the Thompson quotes

 

Yes, I can relate very much. At 16, my life was full of too much beyond my control, and it all made me feel very down. I didn't know it then, but most all 16 year olds feel the same. That is why talking things out among a group of others often is the start of getting some relief. If you can, maybe you can get some extra support with your peers and a counselor. I know it may seem like it's all too much to bear. My advice is to use as much perspective as you can muster up. If you have a roof over your head, enough money, your health, root family that is basically functional, then you've got a head start. Try to build on your good fortune.

 

The secret to happiness is low expectations
im a very happy guy most of the time and because someone is poor it don't mean there un happy happiness is love and close family nothing else matters

 

^ No expectations is right, goalless-ness is next to godliness. You should read the Ram Dass book, "Be Here Now".:2thumbsup:

 

Take care of the obvious stuff within (possibly) your control like getting enough sleep, some daily exercise, eat a fruit and veggie every day, drink plenty of water, practice meditation for like 10 minutes per day. Minimize recreational drug use and cigarettes.

If this doesn't help, look at it from a broader perspective: do your parents suffer from depression? Ask them about it.

 

look within. we're born that way. filled with peace. it's still there.

 

here's my 2 cents on the subject

it seems the advice of the sages is to meditate every day for an hour. if you can do this everyday for three years, it is said that you learn to respond differently to stress. professional meditators claim that meditation is the gateway to bliss and enlightenment

attending to your karma, forgiving, letting go are all recommended and easier said than done

different folks have different advice, but some themes come up often

staying away from negative influences, sensationalist media, etc. could help

best wishes to you on your journey to peace!

 

God is love
Without God, there would be no love.

If you believe in God, I'm almost positive that you can find all the love that you are searching for, and more. And remember, there are good people out there

Stay strong freedom fighter. I know it's tough out there.

Much love and peace from the east!

 

Our minds only entertain one thought at a time. If I resist the temptation to complain, I find I have fewer complaints.

 

There ya go!:sunny:

 

You make your own happiness. It's all inside you not what is out side of you.

It's the choices you make, the patterns you set for yourself.

It's the thoughts you choose to dwell upon. You have the power to change your mind about how you live. Everything about you is your own responsibility and the out come is the direct action on your thoughts.

If you find the good in the things/people around you and choose not to let the negative overcome your happiness you pretty much have it made.

There will be times when things pile up on you and you feel stress, depression and a host of other negative energies. All peoples are affected by things that influence their lives. It is not uncommon.

I had the Wanderlust. I craved Freedom. I was trapped in a marriage I was not happy in. I was sixteen. I followed my heart and joined my people, the hippies in Haight Ashbury in 66ish.

It was Beautiful and it made me how I am, not what I am. I am in charge of what I am. I am responsible for my actions.

It was HARD, talk about Stress. It's not easy being " On The Road " it's not about freeing your body, it's about freeing your mind. My body was ravaged, abused and mistreated. It's tough being a young/naive female, alone in a man's world. I did not think about what I was walking into.

I did every drug you could imagine. I swilled beer and liquor till I passed out. I was wild in my search for who I was. They were wild times and I was not immune to them.

I somehow managed to survive it. By the luck of the draw or by the grace of GOD, survive I did.

Freeing your mind from the small stuff that seem to hinder your progress. To realize that the you build your own circumstance by your perception of how you see your own reality.

You can change whatever aspect you find weakness in. You just have to take the time to search your soul and be honest with yourself. Be still and listen for the answers to your questions. They are all inside you. You know them already.

Bright Blessing On Your Journey

sh

 

i find it amazing that you have the ability to actually recognize the issue, thats absolutley a step in the right direction, i wish i would have had some of your wisdom when i was younger.

an older friend once told me that i should "start dressing out of my own closet", i didnt understand that for several decades, but what i was being told was "just be me", then the same friend added this, "the only ones you have to please are your teachers, classmates, friends, parents, yourself, and above and beyond all stay true to you"

again, i didnt get it...what i was being told is that there are people surrounding me, that depend on me for one thing or another and this gave me a sense of self worth.

if i had understood what i was being told then, i likley could have made peace with that little fire inside that never goes out, things get complicated when you get in your teens, just have a mind of your own, express your opinions rationally, and the rest will fall into place.

when you read the things we post in the old farts section, just try to remember this, we already lived that life, we learned alot and theres no real wisdom were holding out on, we all went thru the teen years, and if everyone was ask, "would you like to go back and do it again?' the answer would be "hell yes, i'd love to but i have to make a living now"

enjoy your present its actually the best years in life, one day you'll joke about how you would like to do it all again too.

 

Well, I have about 40 years on you Christine and my life has been full of fleeting worry, regret, stress and pressure. I say fleeting because while there may have been a bit of regret about something that I have done, I learned early on to let it go. Same with worry. Worry and regret are usually related to something we have done, or something that has happened. What has happened, there is nothing that I can do about it.

As to stress, that can be from current situations such as job, family, school, etc. I usually dealt with stress either by being proactive or I just let it flow over me.

As to the pressures of society, I don't give a shit what society does or thinks about me or what I do, hence no stress.

But I have always been a loner and while not meditating, at least I spend a lot of time alone with my thoughts. I honestly think that if I tried to talk a lot of this stuff out with friends or family, it would affect me worse. Often friends and family will try to fix things when really all you need is a sounding board.

After over 20 years working pre-hospital emergency medicine, I seem to have a Spock like absence of emotions. Not sure if this is a good or bad thing.:alien:

 

i can say (from my expierience only) i also have been closley connected with a profession that creates an absence of emotions, but after retirement i found i was worse off, my conclusion is that we were all performing therapy on each other and didnt know it until we were all seperated from each other. texas.grok, you will probably be the only one that understands this but,....if your in a career that involves life and death, you learn to deal with it in what other would call, a very strange way, you either cry or laugh...no in between. very few understand the wall you put up, and the only ones getting in that wall are co workers