I want advice from people I don't know.

Alright. I'm really fucking stressed right now. I don't know why I am going on this forum to talk about this as i've already talked to a few of my best friends about it. I don't know...I just need a little more help and advice and hopefully, someone of vast intelligence offers me something that will comfort me I guess.

Okay, so i'm turning 18 in around 3 months and I am gay. I love my mother and we get along but any time she finds out that I have a boyfriend, it's just a huge crisis for her and I always become this huge disappointment. She always leaves me feeling like absolute shit and it's as if the son-mother relationship doesn't matter any more. I'm just another faggot to her by then. I love her and I want her to go to my graduation and have a functional relationship but it's just so fucking difficult to have to suppress this aspect of my life for her. Here's the part that leaves me with a difficult decision: My best friend (who is straight) has told me that if my life becomes too difficult with her that I can stay with him from the day I turn 18. (We were already planning on living together.) I don't want to burn any bridges or severely hurt my mother but she's causing me so much pain and i'm seriously considering staying with my best friend shortly after my 18th birthday. What should I do?

 

I pretty sure I put this in the wrong thread...

 

No You Didn't, You Are Gay, Coming Out, And Confused, Sounds Like The

Right Thread To Me....

And Since You Are New Here, Please Allow Me To Welcome You To

The Hip Forums, I Hope You Get The Answers You Seek....



Cheers Glen...

 

I am openly gay but I guess I am still coming out in many ways. Thank you. Do you have an opinion on my post? I think any answers would help.

 

Spaghetti is Straight, until it gets hot

 

If your mom really despises you for just being gay then don't talk to her. She might be your mother but a woman like that who would dishonor her son just for his personality, it's not worth it. Come out, move on, and please don't be that guy who centers their life around being gay. Be like neil patrick harris, the guy doesn't over-emphasis his "gayness"

 

I'm a straight female so I can't exactly relate, but figuring out what to do about the toxic people we love is a pretty universal problem.

The only solution I see is to move out. You'll be 18, moving out is normal at that age and it's not like you have to completely burn your bridges. Getting out on your own may give both you and your mom clarity.

She may come around in a couple of years but it will probably take time and you may have to stand up to her and cut her out of your life for a while for that to happen.

 

you could try and sit down with your mother and talk to her to understand what her problem is. if you can't reach an understanding with her it doesn't look like you have much of a choice. either live in a stressful environment on a daily basis (it can be done, but you need to be a type of dominant character yourself who sets the mood himself and doesn't let others do it) or move out. you're 18, you will have to start living by yourself eventually, so you can give it a try and see how it is with your friend. or get a place of your own if you can afford it.