It's a mystery for us guys. I was just told by my therapist I can't contact her again, as our sessions are now over. I fell for her. And now I am really depressed. What's different about this one, is that I can't just stalk her, or try to continue talking to her. I just have to... Stop. Coping with this has been getting me really down and frustrated.
Every time i read one of your post i get this weird deja vu feeling.Idk why. I cant really explain it though. Just thought i would point that out. Sorry to hear that you didnt get the response you wanted. You can find another girl or time. Time heals everything
emotional transference is common between patients and therapists, they're supposed to try and wean you off them slowly in the last few sessions. i think it was Freud who used to count out his fee in front of the patient during his last few sessions with them, subconsciously letting them know that their relationship was entirely professional and monetary. sounds like she was shit at her job to me. anyway, time heals all. you'll get over it.
did u expect us to tell u to stalk her? seriously, u will get over her. Not being able to see someone u love does suck, but life goes on. U'll find another woman to fall in love with, u just gotta be patient. And frankly i think it's better for u to be with someone u haven't told your deep secret thoughts to before u even start dating...
First off, she is a woman, not a girl. Secondly, the is a health practitioner with ethics considerations about client contact. Third, you are in no shape to be dating. Fourth, find a male therapist.
It hurts but if you do indeed love her, then understand that something like this could ruin her career and life.
Find a therapist on a dating website, date her, slowly tell her your problems, fall madly in love, fuck like bunnies.
the phrase 'time heals' can feel like a bunch of useless crap when going through something like this. Yet its true. I have even had a friend say that altho they managed to get over an ex after a certain length of time (which differs from person to person btw), they only TRULY felt completely over it when they found someone new to be with. I know i dont like being single, never have, but just make sure you dont get with someone new just to get over the feeling. That tends to be baaaaad.
Pick up some hobbies Say hi to strangers, start conversation. Have a few dates. You'll get a nice jolt to your heart and things will get better.
Find a hobby and get into it - maybe cooking? Go for walks, not for the exercise, but to see something new. Put on some LMFAO and dance your heart out until you are laughing at yourself. Good luck.
As soon as "stalking" becomes any option, much less a favorable one....you know you have a problem. First and foremost, learn to be happy by yourself. You need to reassess your whole approach to women, and you're not going to be able to do that while you're obsessed with one. Build your life and somewhere along the lines you'll find someone to share it with. Music has gotten me through heartbreak. And my dog.....she's one bitch who will always have my back..
