hi there. i tried to have sex with men before but i couldn't. i thought it was vaginismus but now i think it is just not it. i am attracted to women. still virgin and scared to have sex with anyone because of my past attempts*. so i am basically in my own cage. just need to convince myself that if i try to have sex with a woman, it'll be ok, not gonna be like the earlier experiences. i cannot be happy if i try to live like this. need to do something! ps. sorry for my english grammer. thank you.
Did you try and have sex and just get scared and back out of it?? Just be with somebody you trust and who will go slow with you. It will be ok.
Flare is right. You need to be comfortable and trusting with whoever it is you'll experience your first time. Don't be in a hurry, take time to meet and get know some gay girls. Go to gay women's meeting places or events, get the feel of the lesbian community in your area first. You'll know when the time is right and the person is the right one for you. Good luck. BTW you didn't say how old you are or where you are from. Your English is ok!
thank you. im 19 - from istanbul. i've had a huge treatment for 1 year, chemotheraphy, but now i am fine everything is ok and im trying to get used to the normal life again. feeling good and going out lately. i know this situation is gonna continue if i won't do something. thank you for your suggestions after that kind of treatment, you start to think like "i must effort to feel normal again". i guess thats why im so hasty these days
