girlfriend is a virgin....i need help

hey im new to this site, i just recently started dating a girl that i really really like, and not only is she a virgin but she has never done anything sexual in nature, at all. shes 16 im 17, ive had my fair share of sexualy exploits and she knows that and is accepting of it, so were just taking things really slow, so this weekend, i tried fingering her, and for some reason she kept telling me it hurt, she wudnt even let me go near her clit if i even barely grazed over it she wud push my hand away saying it hurt, i started out using 2 fingers and getting in deep and making the come here motion like ive always done but as she kept saying it hurt i dialed it down to just one finger and only sticking it half way in and that still hurt, im just not sure what to do, i asked her if maybe i could try eating her out to see if that would feel better but now i feel like shes scared to try anything more at all cuz she doesnt want it to hurt, im just lost right now ive never been with a virgin and im not sure if i should be doing htings differently or if its just going to hurt for her the first few times i do it. someone please help.

 

Well the first question I gotta ask is how much foreplay are you giving her, in terms of what are you doing and how long are you doing foreplay. (Note: and I don't just mean physical stimulation, I'm implying mental as well in terms of setting the mood for her and being romantic and all that)

You've got to relax her, and this in itself may be a little hard because she's bound to be a bit apprehensive given that this is her first time doing anything sexual with someone. The best advice I can give is to be patient and do not get frustrated at her.

My advice is to go slow, have a lot of time and water-based lubrication on hand, along with plenty of condoms and stimulate and massage other parts of her body, like her legs, and neck.

 

You can't just go straight in the hole, esp if she's a virgin. She most likely still has her hymen, so it probably does hurt to poke around down there. Even tampons were too uncomfortable for me when I was a virgin. Gently rub her clit, and stay there for a while, unless that hurts too, in which case you're just going to have to take things slow.

 

Dude, don't waste your time with a virgin. The premise is that sex with virgins are the best, but quite often the opposite is the case. Not only are virgins tight, but they don't know what the fuck they are doing. Top it off with their stupid fairytale fantasies and Snow-White ideologies for further argument against seeking virgins.

My advice is simple: ditch Snow White, hit the bar and seek anal whores there.

 

Your depth is astounding...

 

pretty sure he's exit only

 

just ask her what she wants


then do that

 

Occam's Razor, baby.

 

If the most obvious answer is "You're and idiot." Then you're an idiot.

Stay Brown,
Rev J

 

She doesn't like you. She feels pressure to have a boyfriend, but doesn't really like you or the entire concept. Keep it up and in a few weeks she will break up with you because she is getting multiple orgasms from the homeless guy who lives under the bridge that she 'feels a connection' to.
It isn't you, actually it is, but she is young, so try to bang her mother/sister/brother/father while you can still visit the house. It ain't going nowhere.

 

............:rofl:



Cheers Glen.

 

Might as well. She is going nowhere.

 

lol, hit the bar. he's 17! jeesh!

well yeah ask her what she wants! failing that, make out with her naked and caress her back and butt... if she doesnt like it up front, maybe... but im biased. i love being tickled on my back and lower

 

Like someone else said, try giving her massages and making our with her. If that doesn't work, its probably not gonna go anywhere.

 

If / When the moment arrives, don't forget that a girl is just at much risk getting pregnant on her first experience as any other time, so make sure to carry a precautionary pack of condoms with you at all times (as you never know when the opportunity may present itself), but as well as condoms, you could be advised to get some decent water based lube.

Also, as mentioned previously in the thread, don't hold back on foreplay. The more you get her aroused beforehand, the more natural lubricants she will generate, making it easier for her, as well as being more pleasureable for you.

Finally, whatever you do, follow her lead in body language - DON'T just hammer it. Do that & you will cum in no time, as well as possibly doing her an injury.

 

You gotta get in her head. If she is pushing your hand away at the slightest touch then she is not "there" mentally and you need to relax her and talk about stuff she likes first. Being a newbie isnt fun, as someone else said.
Its all about getting her psyched about it first.

If that doesn't work then ditch her, don't go to the closest bar, and find someone else. It'll help you both.

Good luck!

 

Some people's horniness goes in spells, perhaps she is like that?

Other than that, its kind of like petting a shy dog....you reach and it runs away, but be still and it will come to you when it feels safe. Next thing you know the dog is jumping on you and licking your face.

 

From the sounds of it she has never had an orgasm. I would suggest talking with her more and asking her to masturbate in the bath or something like that when you are not around. Tell her she has to find out what she likes so she can tell you and that way your not probing around and hurting her

 

Get her to lie completely naked face down on the bed. Start by giving her a nice, slow, total body massage. Start with her shoulders and her back then gently massage and kneed her butt cheeks all the while kissing and licking as you massage. Don't neglect her thighs and calves. After you notice she is totally relaxed get her to turn over onto her back. Repeat the process starting with her shoulders and working your way down her entire body to her ankles skipping the pubic area, but paying close attention to the inner thighs. After she is complete putty in you hands slowly work your way to her pubic area. Slowly and gently spread her legs and begin to gently kiss and lick her labia, but don't neglect her inner thighs close to her crotch. Slowly work your way to her clit and gently kiss and lick it. By this time she should be dripping wet so slowly slip your tongue into her pussy and see how she reacts. If she as receptive as any other woman would be by then try a finger while still licking and kissing all around the area. Proceed slowly with another finger and then eventually slide your erect penis between those hot, dripping lips.

 

what so wrong with this advice?

take it's core concept

virgins are hard work.

is this true - quite possibly

some people are patient and some people are not

if the original poster isn't patient

then he shouldn't be with this girl

and this girl shouldn't be with him.

simple really.