Hi there. So my GF and I are starting to experiment sexually with other couples. We've had two experiences so far but neither time was I able to achieve a usable erection. The whole situation is hot and when I think about it afterwards it makes me horny but when its actually happening it doesn't really turn me on. I think I'm nervous about being able to perform or about the whole situation in general. Obviously this is undesirable. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do to get erections? Should I try using something like viagra? I don't have erection problems when It's just my GF and I fucking, just when were in group situations. I was thinking that as we do it more I'll get more used to it and I'll be more turned on by it but I would like to get past this ASAP.
Just try and relax when your doing it. Maybe have a few drinks to cal myour nerves but dont over do it or else youll get liquor dick and itll backfire.
Whenever I've been with other guys who have been a tille retarded in achieving an erection, giving them Oral quickly brings it about, as it stimulates it physically & mentally.
it will probably go away after a few more sessions. try going to the bathroom and taking a pee to relax. this should give you a minute to gather your senses and get some blood flowing to the penis. cool air temperature can make you nervous because you are chilly. sensory overload, you may want this and that but when it gets down to it. there are to many things going on. and you are distracted. change your role. be submissive in the beginning. and dont have inhibitions.
Have you thought about not cumming for like 3-4 days before the group encounter? After that time many would be very horny.
Thanks everyone who responded! My GF was blowing me, it did help somewhat but still wasn't usable lol. Thats an interesting theory. I don't know why that would be though. I really want to have sex with other women, and honestly I don't really care if someone else is screwing my GF (as long as there is another women there). I think your right about the sensory overload which would likely be coupled by some anxiety by being around unfamiliar naked people lol. My GF and I go to a bathhouse where people rent rooms to have sex, or just have sex in the common areas. I suggested to her that we go way more often to try to desensitize me to whatever is causing this ED. Thats something I may have to try! Do you think viagra help me if I couldn't get hard due to nervousness? I read somewhere it only helps with physical problems causing ED and not emotional ones. But then again I've also heard it would help from elsewhere.
yeah - sure it would; i use it from time to time, normally viagra soft, but always works. just not good to use it as a prop. If u want to pm me I'll give a good and cheap supply site url. Simon :sunny:
I would recommend Viagra (I personally prefer Cialas; it lasts longer). After separating from my wife, when my new GF and I became intimate, I was naturally anxious. It was the first time I had been with a different woman in 18 years. It helped until we became comfortable with each other and then I no longer needed it. Good luck.
I especially like the advice to de-sensitise. not! desensitising so that you can have a more fulfilling sensory experience?! such a proposition seems absurd to me. what's happening is: yr masculinity hates the spotlight! it's been trained to do it in the dark. and now ... ha, ha, you'll have to de-condition yrself!
it is an Anxiety issue and nothing more or less. many men suffer from this, because it is bought on by being too anxious and being worried about how well you might perform. even i suffer from erectile performance problems sometimes, especially when having a sensual massage by a woman i dont know, or dont know very well. you just need to find a way to relax, and learn to go with the flo, and for many guys, having a few beers before can loosen up the nerves. dont touch viagra unless your prepared for the possibilities of horrible side effects, and if your under 40 you should nevert have a need for viagra anyway.
It's really common, particularly when starting out in group situations. Try not to rely on Viagra & Cialis, it's not healthy to pump yourself with pharmaceutical especially when young. There are natural alternatives which can give you a boost and extra confidence. Then you can focus on getting your head right and in the zone. It can almost be a case of sensory overload and the pressure to perform that unhinges you, but it will pass. I use Zenerect in my encounters occasionally when I feel I might need to go all night or am tired or worn out. It's cheaper than the big V and 1 pill will stay in your system for 2 days or so. Many of my mates in the lifestyle use it also as it's natural and better for your body. All the best buddy.
