God. Okay. So my house is completely wood- wood floors and cabiny woody walls/ceilings. So everything echoes, alot. My room is right above the kitchen so anything that happens in the kitchen is amplified by 100 into my room. Alright, so both my parents know that I have horrible insomnia and often don't fall asleep untill 3/4 o'clock each morning. But on weekends they insist doing dishes at 9:30 and then get mad at me when I say something about it or act cranky. I'm not asking them to wait all day, 11:00 would be nice. But no the minute I ask them to do that, or get a little upset they go all crazy and call me inconsiderate and that I'm not the only person in the house and that their lives can't start when i wake up. God. I'm so frustrated. I just want to freakin sleep. And they know how much it bothers me! God. and I'm so quiet when they go to bed early. I don't make any noises. I freakin tiptoe around. So you know what my day shouldn't end when theirs ends right?! god. God. god. haha. Thanks for reading haha. EDIT: I forgot to mention! I do the dishes every night, and I do a damn good job! SO really their just packing away dishes from the dishwasher. SO its not like the kitchen is a mess when they wakeup.
12:00 in the morning or in the afternoon? haha. 12 in the morning could be kinda funny hahah I do! I do the dishes EVERY night. without fail. and they just unpack the dishes in the morning. But its not like their even trying to be quiet. My dad will throw the forks into the drawer and let the cabinets slam. haha
In the morning, I first would type 11:00 but I thought it's better to do them when you're properly awake :biggrin:
I Suggest You Take The Mature And Well Balanced Approach To The Problem, Next Time This Happens, Throw A Total Mega Spaz Attack And Smash Every Dish In The Kitchen.... Then Quietly And Calmly Go Back To Bed.... Problem Solved...:2thumbsup: Cheers Glen.
I Wish You Well.... If The Hospital "Severe Trauma Unit" Has An Internet Connection, Please Make A Post, And Tell Us How Your Recovery Is Progressing.... Cheers Glen.
it would be nice if your folks would accommodate you, but ultimately it's their house and you don't have a lot of options. the easiest way to handle this seems to be to put the dishes away yourself before you go to bed. you could try having another conversation with them about this. if there's really no other solution, you could try living with another relative who is more quiet, or if you are old enough finding a place of your own. what is perhaps more important is addressing the insomnia itself. sorry for posting more helpful books, but I can't help it "Curing Insomnia Naturally with Chinese Medicine" by Bob Flaws
Umm.. to be perfectly honest yes.. but there is a few things to make it where it's not. Your parents will stick with their schedule as you stick with your schedule, even though you're most likely to be able to gladly change yours, unlike them. Doesn't mean they're assholes, just means they have a method to their cause. I'm sorry for being so damn honest, but just had to get that out of the way. Anyways if you can just hold on and read through this post and some of my nonsense there will be a few ideas to help you sleep through it, and sleep better possibly. No promises as I know not everything that works for one insomniac works for another. But here's some ideas: Maybe try wearing some noise cancelling headphones. I'm into heavy metal and such, but I do enjoy some Rolling Stones, Beatles, James Blunt.. yes I know.. anyways Bright eyes and other such softer/classic/indie type rock or accoustic music whichever helps me to sleep with no extraordinarily loud noises. And I've found that Bose has one of the best systems, the QC series is amazing, but most noise cancelling or decent non-noise cancelling headphones do a decent job. It keeps those chirping birds from waking me up, I usually go to sleep right before sunrise (which nearly depresses me) since sometimes I see the curtains slightly lighten up, which the light makes it even harder to sleep. So I cover my eyes with my elbow or a comfortable pair of blindfolds, but that's what works for me. The music on at a low to moderate level works well to be a sound buffer as if anything 'spikes' like if someone breaks a glass the music will cover most the sounds and the noise cancelling will cancel out the ambient noises like constant unloading of dishes. This might help you sleep. I sleep 4-5 hours each day, and if that gets disrupted by even 30 minutes early, I'm fucking tired as hell, but if I sleep more (IE sleeping pills, which I do have ambien..) then I'll just want to sleep all day, so too much or too little ruins my day. So maybe try staying up on the weekend til 9:30 haha, yes' thats an extra 6-7 hours of being up, but it's the weekend, and you don't sleep until late anyways, but then you should just sleep right through it being exhausted... unless you have a delicate sleep pattern then don't do that. Anyways just a few suggestions, but you can do whatver you want. Maybe unload the dishwasher yourself too? I know it sucks doing a little more than you have to, but if you get that extra sleep you really need, who knows may make your life easier, and be happy everytime you do it, knowing that your extra 30 minutes (think more time than it is so when it's shorter your happier haha) of work can give you that extra hour of sleep. Or whatver it may do. As E7M8 has said about a book "cursing insomnia naturally.." This can be possible, I tried all sorts of remedies and herbs/spices and OTC sleeping aids, and even home remedies. Though I had gotten deeply into brewing my own teas (organic loose tea leaves in a strainer not teabags) so you get full flavor, and effects of the teas. They always said 'x and y' teas help you sleep, and never worked for me, I'd drink 2-4 cups of hot/warm tea and never helped. Though one morning I steeped my tea for about 8 minutes (making it dense in flavor and usually only steep for 3-4 minutes) so when I drank it was strong, but I didn't mind. Anyways three cups down of this heavy brewed tea I started to feel tired, and I was wide awake just a few minutes earlier, so this can be possible with just tea alone. So there maybe something in there or somewhere for you that can help. I before sleep now brew my strongest tea for about 10-15 minutes extremely strong but you could add honey to flavor it, not sugar or you'll be having trouble sleep again, and drink two cups about 15-20 minutes before I lay in bed, and that's usually an hour before I want to sleep. That and if really bad I use my medications but usually not with a good brew of tea. There's lots of great places to get loose tea, doesn't have to be organic or even one of the 'sleepy' teas, as long as there is low to no caffiene in the tea, it'll work well. (at least for me) Anyways once again apologizing for this excessively long post, but trying to help another insomniac out, I know how bad it can suck. 21 years and still going, I've never known a full nights sleep before, the closest was when I was addicted to morphine took a 1/4 gram (a whole fucking lot, people start at 10mg or such, I was at 250mg) and slept for 7 hours was amazing, but when I woke still was in a somber such mood, so really didn't work out. Anyways drugs aren't the path, but who knows maybe tea or some other herb can work for you. If you're interested in the tea option, I went through quite a few places for loose tea, and found a great place, if you're interested you can PM me for the site, or look for yourself. Just be sure to try some teas from the market first to see if you'd enjoy a cup of tea first of all, and be ok with other not as commercially made for taste. As some can be quite interesting in flavor, and expensive but usually because of higher quality, but most are relatively well priced. And loose leaf tea needs a tea strainer/infuser which you'd need to buy yourself to make it, since I won't try to advertise, but if you choose to check out the teas, the site I regularly use will give 15g samples of almost every tea for a dollar, which is quite a few cups of tea to enjoy or see if you like or not. But flat rate shipping of 4.40 so you'd have to buy a few to make it worth your while. But goodluck on your quest for weekend sleep and hopefully all works out. I don't use the headphones anymore, but the tea is saved when I need to sleep around 2-3 am, my schedule is all fucked up sadly. but maybe you can get much needed sleep and at an earlier hour to help you get more rest. But life is about YOUR choices so you can do whatever you like, and maybe I may have given you an idea to run with. - Jeff Edit: oh if you can't afford or don't want to waste a pretty penny on noisecancelling headphones then you can use in-earbud headphones with music on, but the bose QC headphones can be good without music playing as it's active cancelling. But better with music.
This reminds me of some of my neighbors' complaint. Some time ago, they put a written note in the elevator for everyone to see, it said "Everyone likes to sleep late on sunday mornings, but lately we have noticed that there was noise in the building as early as 9am : kids laughing, people walking loudly in their appartments, etc." Then they were nicely asking people to quit making noise so they could get their rest. It made me laugh out loud when i read that. (Note that our appartments are perfectly sound-proofed, personally i never hear my neighbors). I mean, 9am is a perfectly normal time to walk around or have your kids laugh. Just cuz u want to sleep late doesn't mean the world is going to stop living ! At first when i read your post i saw the word "insomnia" and felt bad for u, but then u pointed out that the problem was not so much that u couldn't get sleep : u do sleep, only u start sleeping at 4am (so yeah of course at 9:30 u haven't slept enough). I mean, no offense but it doesn't sound like "insomnia" per se, it just sounds like your sleeping schedule is messed up. That's fine when u live on your own but not if u live at your parents'. Maybe your parents are purposely being noisy because they think they can help u change your sleeping schedule...
I know the feeling. My mom was a bitch about those type of things too. Thank god I don't live with her anymore. lol I sleep better now than I did when I lived at home. Maybe you should look into moving out, could help your insomnia.
