Should I leave him be when he's with his friends?

I really like this guy and we've been flirting back and forth alot. He's got a lot of friends and he is ALWAYS, always with them. (we do get some alone time twice a week or so, and we text alot). My major question is do I leave him alone when he's around his friends?

If there's an empty seat next to him.... do I grab it (if he's sitting with his friends)? If they're all chillin in the commons area... do I go up and say hi?

I'm kinda shy. He's asked me to sit with him in class before but it didn't work out. And that was kind of a while ago...February-ish.

Haha I just. dont. know! haha

And his friends act kinda weird around me. They smile a lot...but like a wierd smile..like a "i know something" smile.

Haha thanks so much for reading through my silliness. haha

 

how does sitting together in class "not work out?"

i wouldn't recommend clinging to him 24/7 or anything, but i see no reason not to hang out with him when he's with his friends, at least not based on anything you've said here.

 

Hahaha I don't why i wrote that. By not working out i meant "I awkwardly skipped a seat, so there was one between us in the auditorium. and then he told me to sit beside him next time. and i didn't because i didn't know if he still wanted me to." haha

Thanks though I'm going to. ha

 

Hey now, be sensitive, 50% of seating arrangements end in a divorce.

 

You are over thinking the seating arrangements.

If he tells you to sit next to him during an assembly or in an auditorium, do so. Guys tend to be pretty direct in communication, or at least more so than girls sometimes who I've found to not always be directly verbal, and communicate more subtly.

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As for the friends scenario, it's possible they just find it hard to get to know you, and so group settings are awkward, because they don't want to make you feel uncomfortable so they smile politely, and you are all apprehensive to fit in it seems, and so it's never stated but everyone feels awkward.

Just go up to your boyfriend say hi, or maybe text him to meet you somewhere private. Have you talked to your boyfriend about how you feel that his friends don't like or approve of you or whatever it is you're feeling?


Also don't be clingy, it's perfectly ok to give the guy alone time with his buddies, while you do your own thing for a day.

 

they're not bf/gf yet...

Larsy, do hang out with him, who cares about his friends? If he's not too stupid, he should figure out that u like him and want to spend time around him.

 

In my world the problem would be solved when he told you he likes you to sit next to him next time...

 

Re: the awkwardness around his friends - try having one-on-one conversations with some of them. Once you've broken the ice you'll realize that the discomfort is totally unnecessary.

Of course you have to give him time for his friends. My advice would be to stop texting, or at least limit it to questions and logistics that require an immediate response. This will make the you-and-him private time that much more special because you haven't virtually been there all day. There's no hard and fast rule about when to leave him alone, but don't pay him too many surprise visits, that could get annoying. If it's more time with him that you desire, tell him you'd like to make more frequent plans. I'm sure you'll get a positive response.

Good luck

 

They are smiling like they know something; BECAUSE THEY KNOW SOMETHING. As in, that you like each other.

When he asked you to sit next to him, and it didn't work out; IT'S BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T SIT NEXT TO HIM.

You are really over complicating this.