I am a coming out bisexual woman. There's a question I've been pondering for a while. Why do some lesbians not want to date a bisexual woman? In depth answers would be preferred. I only want to understand the community I am a part of.
I can only speak for myself, the thought of me knowing that she still is attracted to men will bother me a little.
Some women just don't care for the male anatomy, sometimes they would find it disgusting to think of male penetration into someone they are involved with. I know a few lesbians who date bi females and know that they have to share with the opposite sex takes on communication which is a huge thing to be open and honest and that woman or man is comfortable and open minded with relationship situations if dating a man and woman at the same time they are seperate relationships and time is spent equally between them.
I wouldn't have a problem with being with a bi girl. I don't think it would matter who else she could potentially be interested in, just as long as it was only me while we were together! Everyone's different and as long as we we had feelings for each other, who cares whether she's been with men or women in the past or would be again? I don't think it's a big deal.
I would go in depth, but it's too personal based on my experience. But, I will say that I don't mind Bisexual girls, I just would never date them again, because it seems like they always go for guys in the end, in terms of relationships. I also don't like the fact that she could possibly leave me for a man. It would make me feel like I wasn't enough for her. I don't know really. I've only been hurt by two. If I meet a really nice girl, who just happens to be a bisexual, then I would give it another shot. But until then, I'm just going to avoid them. I know that sounds prejudiced, but those last two relationships (especially the first one) were really painful
I think most lesbian have the notion that bisexual women are promiscuous. That is not always true, it more so depends on the person not their preference. I have no problem dating bisexual woman, as long as they're honest. As I know a woman can be bisexual and with one partner in a relationship. However, as stated before we simply cannot compete with men, and I would prefer to have a long term relationship with a lesbian. But on the other hand many of us have been bisexual before coming out as lesbian. So it is a touchy subject that isn't addressed often enough. I hope I'm not contradicting myself too much, lol.
i just believe that if its love there is no competition. and if the relationship doesn't last, doesn't matter who the other person ends up with. (i think) i mean isn't the threat the same coming from either a man or another woman? but i wouldn't really know. i haven't had any relationships with women for my answer to qualify.
Absolutely agree with you. There is so much biphobia in the gay community it’s pathetic. a reason(which REALLY shouldn’t be a reason at all) I got from other lesbians why they wont date a bi woman is because they feel like their primary relationship is with a man and being with a woman is just a fling for them(nothing serious).
