Big Turn off

Yep I see your point and your right I do have to admit that I was turned off. Thank you

 

Sounds like you may be throwing out what could be a good connection with someone because of issues that are literally only skin deep.

I say you should re-think it and let her know honestly that at first it was a turn off and took you by surprise. Then be sympathetic concerning her obvious insecurity concerning it. Actually her insecurity belies the fact that you are important to her, otherwise it may not be a big deal to her if she didn't really give a shit what you think/feel.

My wife had some surgery a few years before I met her that left her with a gnarly scar that goes from her solar-plexus down to about 2 inches above her belly button and about 1/2" wide.
At first it was kinda weird and a little "disturbing", but you know what, now I honestly don't even notice it at all, hell I had a hard time visualizing it just now. It's just "her".

Take the sex and all physical aspects out of the equation for a moment and access the other things you mentioned, and mentioned was really good between you.
THAT'S what a good, solid, long-lasting relationship will be built on and strengthened by, not something as fleeting as looks and superficial like scars.

 

Very well said. Thank you

 

I think you have a decision to make, whether you like/love the girl as a person. or whether your need for the visual sex is the overriding/deciding factor.

If the latter, you should think hard about how to end it and spare her feelings, she is obviously very embarrassed about the scarring and not strong enough to not care too much.

I was going to say that you could consider whether the scarring will improve, or whether she could have corrective surgery, but don't think that would be an answer for you. Her maybe, but not you.

I don't mean to be unkind, some people can't see past these slight impediments, others can.

I have a new wife who has a lot of quite bad stretch makes, she was very embarrassed by them at first, said they were ugly, but as far as I am concerned they are part of her and they don't worry me too much. I told her this and now she shows her body a lot more and as she has become much less shy, as a result her stretch marks now seem less obvious.

My first wife had a large labia, which she absolutely hated, all my previous GF's had simple slits, so it was a little odd to me at first. For years she would never let me see her naked and hated oral sex, but with a lot of encouragement from me things gradually changed and her confidence increased.

Our first naturist holiday (her idea) she spent with her legs tightly closed, the last with them wide open and pussy shaved, with not a care in the world. Very sexy.

Often these little imperfections can really make a person, this obsession with so called perfection makes us shallow and boring. Character is so much more important and it lasts.

So take a good hard look at yourself and her, is she a diamond with the very tiny flaw?

 

I don't think any relationship is perfect, always some compromise or reality checks in place. While I sympathize that you are having some doubts, I can't help but think about her. By her wanting to hide in the dark, you're not the first to not like the way she looks. Being honest is important, but the insecurity she must be feeling must be awful. I hope your are kind - whatever you decide to do next.