-We have to appear as though we don't see through his fickle attempts to approach without making it look like he's approaching -We have to stay passive enough so that he feels like he is making all the moves, while I'm the one who is guiding things emotionally, while not being too passive and inert -We have to try not to laugh at his awkward attempts to be cool because it would hurt his emotions -We have to sometimes put on shows to make sure he feels superior and more in control -Must sit back and let him dominate the conversation, because that's what men do -Need to be unpredictable in our actions so he feels like the more stable one Are you shitting me here? Being a woman sucks in the dating game... I can let other forumites continue this list but what do MALES think about these issues? What do women think about it? Why is this social one-sidedness ignored? It puzzles me and I wonder how women honestly feel about this, or are they conveniently ignoring it? Also how does half the population (women) deal and feel about this? Fundamentals of how our genders communicate need a freakin re-haul, imo.
Yeah, I don't really attempt to "come on" to a girl, if we meet and I dig her I sort of just let it roll. I don't think any of that is really too important to me.
Whenever a guy approaches me, I try not to think about how he wants to bend me over the table. I assume every guy just wants to talk and hang out and nothing more. I do not let any man dominate anything, though. Right away - I prove to them that I am independent and not about to tolerate any bullshit. I also don't believe in letting him feel superior in any way. The only thing I don't do is make the first move. Except with my husband, I made the first move because he obviously wasn't going to. Being in the dating scene for a man or woman is tough.
When I read the title of this thread, I thought it would be about the penis, LMAO. xD Anyway, I never think about those things on the list myself. Too much politically inclined strategical BS as far as I'm concerned. For me, it's either you talk to them and hit it off, or don't hit it off. If you think about it that way, it's much simpler. Saves all the headaches in my opinion. No game winning strategy or anything shitty involved. Sure, when I talk to a girl, I may consciously hold myself back if I don't know her well. But that is more to do with my not wanting to be in any way overwhelming, than anything else. Plus, chances are she'll learn a lot about me sooner or later, so really there's no real need for me to think in terms of what my next "move" should be. The fact is, no one can predict this kind of stuff, so it's kinda pointless to think too much into it. And if the girl in turn decided to play games with me, I'd be put off by that. I've had enough girls cockteasing me to the point where they almost always end up leaving me heartbroken in the past. Fuck that shit. Nothing beats simply getting to know each other without any stupid mind game type scheme dictating your every move in my opinion. I mean, come on, love isn't a game.
Funny self contradiction, or did you grow tired of dating? The tough thing is learning to live with sex hormones. The dating scene is an outgrowth of trying to be comfortable with ourselves.
Well, my husband and I were really good friends before we started dating. So he didn't know if I was feeling the same way he was...so I made the first move.
If I'm acting like anything I'm not to impress a girl then I think I deserve to get laughed at. Also fuck dating a passive girl and fuck even thinking about any of this stuff, interact with men the way you see as appropriate and not by what you think their expectations are.
Wow you must have been real mad to make this thread. NOne of it being true anyway, all spite. Neg rep for this shit
i'm pretty sure the OP is male and just attempting to make a point or something. anyway, i hate the girl described here.
Ummm. Speaking as a woman, I'd have to say everything on this list is bullshit. No one worth dating is going to play games like that, or even think about those things. Girls want to be in happy relationships just as much as guys do, and we certainly don't look down on guys who are ballsy enough to approach us cold. Walsh aren't you a guy? What were you hoping to accomplish by starting this thread?
I think the OP is just completely clueless if its a female. If I approached OP and they were like this I would probably laugh and move on because someone that stupid is not worth my time or intelligence.
