Hi there, i just turned 18 last month, and have been struggling with this question for a very long time... I think i'm bisexual but i'm not sure, First a bit information about myself The gay side I've started watching porn when i was 11yo, I became interested with the male performer and slowly started watching gay porn and became addicted to it. I'm no longer sexual aroused by straightporn by only watching the female performer. I've been sexual active with men for over 2 years now. All these men from the sexdates are from the internet and usually it's a one time thing and I delete their mobilenumber after the sex and never ever talk to them again. I'm only sexual attracted to men, and never had love feelings for them. The straight side I've always liked girls, but since i have been watching gay porn i'm no longer aroused by women anymore. I've never imagined my future relationships or whatsoever with a men, only girls. I've been what you can call "in love" with girls but never had a serious relationship with them or anything sexual, mainly because i'm to picky and the girls i pick are not interested in being more than a friend. I really can imagine a future with any of the girls i like, but with absolutely no men. I'm desperately seeking for a girlfriend but i'm scared to go for it because i don't think it will satisfy me when it comes down to sex... So my question is: Can a men be in love with a women but sexually aroused by men? Am i Bi or gay? please help me! note: The reason i started this topic was because few days back me and my guy friends went out together, and they had a suprise for me prepared. Turned out to be a offer to sleep with a hooker, since they all know i'm still a virgin and they wanted to turn me into a men because all of my friends already lost their virginity. I turned down the offer with a excuse of wanting my first time to be sexual, but the truth is I was scared that i couldn't get a hard on. The girls were looking hot though....
I don't think you can judge what you are just by watching porn. I think you need the one on one experience with a girl and a man to be able to tell. Just because girl porn does nothing for you anymore does not mean that a girl would do the same. Maybe the answer lies in not watching so much porn or none at all and see what turns you on then. Good Luck.
Well, sexuality can be weird I think. My advice would be to stop over thinking things and just go with how you feel at one particular time. Try it, suck it and see as they say. haha. Go with a girl, and see what happens.:2thumbsup: I also started watching porn at 11, started with straight porn, which I liked. I would always concentrate on the girl and imagine that I was the guy. I would never be turned on by the men in straight porn, always the girls. I was aware from an early age that I liked boys though, so I started watching gay porn, and prefered it to straight. I would always imagine myself in the role of the bottom, and never the top. I was the same as you, I never thought that I could like guys in any other way but sexual. When I thought about stuff like romance and hugging and kissing, or spending my time and having a relationship with someone I thought of girls. I'm nearly 18 now, and I've had girlfriends, and for whatever reason I never enjoyed the sex that I've had with girls, not really. The sex I have with my boyfriend is awesome.:love: I also love my boyfriend and we are very romantic with each other and are always hugging and kissing, and are in a full time relationship. I did not meet him on a website though, he is someone I have been close to my whole life, someone I and my family trust. Maybe you need to form a relationship with a man that you like, someone you like being with, maybe then the romance and the long term relationship will follow. Before you do that though, you need to have sex with some girls first, maybe you will like it more than I did? You might not though. I still am sexually attracted to girls though, so go figure! I'm with my bf now, and we are faithfull to each other. I love him very much, and who's to say what will happen in the future, maybe I'll try girls again and find the right one that I will enjoy having sex with and we will get married and have kids, or maybe not. I really dont give a fuck, as long as I'm having fun. I have so much fun with my bf at the moment.:love: Boys/girls, whatever, who cares these days, try everything, and take each day as it comes. Your young like me, live in the moment. For example, I have woken really, really early, and I'm horny. It's to early to wake my bf, but give it another hour or so and I'm gonna wake him up, and make sure that he gives it to me before he goes to work. :love: To answer your question, yes you can be in love with a girl and still like having sex with girls, or vice versa. Who cares if your straight, bi or gay, there are no rules. Fuck anyone that thinks there are.
really? i didn't even need to watch porn to know that i liked men and wasn't in the least bit interested in females. hell, i didn't even need first hand experience. i just knew. how the hell is this so complicated for some people? i really don't get it. for me, it was the simplest truth in the world. to the OP, there have been other guys on this forum saying the exact same thing, so apparently you're not alone. you can search some of the older threads and maybe you'll find something helpful. i'm at a loss on this subject since i never went through anything the like.
