What do you think about trust?

really. people constantly change. sometimes it just takes a little longer for some douchebag cheaters to catch on and realize it would be in theirs and their partners best interests just to be blunt about everything. sorry partner butttt i wanna fuck someone else. id rather say that then lie and hide shit like that....

 

see what you've started? lol

thank you for this post!

 

i think some cheaters do it just because they know (or think they know) they can get away with it.

i agree with you - people (not just men!!!) should just fess up and say "it's over" or "there's a problem" instead of cheating. it's really NOT that hard, unless they are the type i mentioned above! THOSE are the ones who seldom change.

most people change. i've changed. but not everyone!

 

I know, sorry. This is not the direction I was expecting the conversation to go in. I didn't want to argue with anyone, just see whether I was alone in my opinion. Is there any way to delete a thread?

 

bedtime - fight nice!

:daisy::sunny::sunny:

 

its funny how we can all "argue" with each other, while we all grasp the same general concept to a degree....

 

The direction the thread has gone is not your fault, don't be sorry...

And, no, you can't delete your thread, and there's not really any reason to as it's a good topic.

 

really. really. really. really. really. really. really. really. really. really. really.

only way i know of is to complain about moderators deleting threads...

 

no reason to delete. most threads like this end up going off topic or in a different direction. "arguing" is a great way to open people's minds. i know i've changed my opinions on things after seeing arguments on this forum. just never really got involved in one before!

g'nite!

 

exactly!

i'm REALLY trying to go to bed but now can't walk away!

 

exactly!

 

i think your underwear is too tight! lol

 

yeah , lol shoulda went to sleep 2 hours ago, i just keep reaching for 3k ;p

 

"Step AWAY from the computer... SLOWLY."

 

i dont give a shit about divorce rates...or personal experiences of yours...you said once a cheater always a cheater and that just is not true......cheating is relative to the cause...what about someone that cheats once when they are 40 as many do...by your reasoning they were always a cheater...or does your reasoning[female] only extend forwards in time.....

so back to trust....in general....i trust people because i want them to trust me...if i sense a woman is trying to compare my deeds to those of a past dude i blow her out of the water right quick



ftr...i have never been caught cheating nor been accused of it with the right person lol


and just to add a bit of steam to this thread

yes i have cheated on many but not nearly all my exes...see....some of them i didnt 'need' to cheat because they were good girlfriends...i only cheated on the bad ones

 

Exactly. There is never an excuse for cheating. If there is a so-called "cause" for the cheating, then either attempt to eliminate that cause, or just break up with your partner. If you have a "bad" boyfriend or girlfriend, then split up with them! Cheating on them only proves that you are no better than them, or able to take the moral high ground over them. Doing something out of spite or a dislike of your partner is just being vindictive, and 2 wrongs never make a right. If there is a problem with your relationship, either try and work it out, or get out of that relationship. There's no excuse for cheating.

And yes, I do believe that once someone has cheated, or stabbed you in the back in any way, they can never be trusted again. I've always believed if you're capable of doing something once, then you are capable of doing it again. Even if you never do it again (which is very unlikely) the capacity will always be there, and for me at least I could never look at that person in the same way again, even if I could forgive them. It is also the case that most people who cheat will probably do so more than once, as to most cheaters, there are certain problematic relationship circumstances where they'd see cheating as a legitimate course of action. When really, it never is.

 

Your douchiness is coming through...

 

cheers for this post was almost what i wanted to say but you got here first.

once trust has been broken, i believe it can be put back but with a lot of hardwork and soul searching, everyone is capable of making a mistake, sometimes we have to forgive and forget and trust again.
it depends if there is enough love between the people involved and i don't use that word loosely, it has to be the real deal.

 

cheers for this post was almost what i wanted to say but you got here first.

once trust has been broken, i believe it can be put back but with a lot of hardwork and soul searching, everyone is capable of making a mistake, sometimes we have to forgive and forget and trust again.
it depends if there is enough love between the people involved and i don't use that word loosely, it has to be the real deal.

 

unless you can show me where i said it - you are TWISTING MY WORDS.

please feel free to show me where i said once a cheater ALWAYS A CHEATER.

i DID say "people rarely change"...

go ahead, correct me - SHOW ME.