is my girlfriend a s*lut?

Men and women aren't the same. Our wants, desires, needs - are not the same.

I know I'm going to get ripped a new one for suggesting this but in my lifes experience women are generally more conservative than men. or atleast the women I have known have been much more conservative (on average) than the men I have known.

So if a guy friend of mine comes to me and asks me for advice about the girl he's currently seeing and he lists off a long list of shit she told him she did in her sexual past... idk - it's really case by case basis for me on what verdict I'm giving back.

Sure 30 people you've slept with would not bother me that much (but I'm in my mid 30's). For someone that is 22 to have slept with 30 people that implies she probably slept with 10+ or something around that before she even graduated from high school.

But it's not just that is it...? She had an abortion too. She has a chain of events that when all combined together shows a woman who is (and I'm very careful with this word) PROBABLY using sex to fill a self-esteem void.

Personally, women who do this - who have low self-esteem and let men use them - are a total turnoff to me as a potential mate. Woman X can sleep with 30 people but have done it with a healthy sex life and outlook (not taken advantage of - was all just for sexual exploration and having fun). But we all know that's not the majority of women who have slept with 30 people at 22.

If you polled 22 year old american females who had slept with 30 dudes chances are only 10% of them would have been doing it for genuinely healthy reasons - and 90% of them have insane daddy issues and self esteem issues are are generally mentally weak people who have potential ticking time bomb maturiy issues just watiting to go off and fuck their mates life up.

I don't think any man GENUINELY care about the details of who she fucked, when she fucked them, how she fucked them, or with who. What they care about is what those actions IMPLY about her personality. And as much as the majority of HIP forum people want to make everyone believe that there are no negative connotations about that sexual history.... we all know people who are really promiscuous usually have emotional issues - especially if that promiscuity was at a early age.

 

Well Yazzz thanks for perpetuating the double standards. One abortion means nothing, because as I've said, it could happen to anyone. Maybe it even happened to you at one point and the girl just didn't tell you about it. And if you're a girl, well, that's just masochism.

How can women be more conservative than men? For every total female sex partner there has to be a male counterpart. It all has to equal out, that's just basic math.

And Yazzz about your first comment, about men and women's needs being different: are you implying that women who crave sex are somehow abnormal or lesser people, who have mental issues? That's plain ridiculous.

People should stop being so damn judgmental - if you don't like your partner's sexual history, don't be with them. Simple as that. Don't go complaining about it or calling people hurtful names, because you're making the world a worse place to be.

 

Unless you marry a virgin everyone has a past. Just need to deal with it how you want to.

 

We want to change those connotations. In order to do so, we must confront the status quo, not accept it.

 

Sounds like she just knows how to have fun. Unless she's sleeping with other guys while you're dating, then whatever... But if she's had 30 sex partners in 8 years, then you two might not stay together too long

 

Those thirty guys could have been done in a matter of days she could have been a saint for the last 7 years

 

did we ever find out if his girlfriends a slut yet?

 

I fucked her 15 minutes ago, totaly whore.

 

The Jury Handed Down It's Verdict In Post 25, Everything Since Then Has

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Cheers Glen.

 

How do you figure that's what an abortion means? Maybe she was not ready for a kid, understood her stiuation, and did what it took to keep her life a way that she found acceptable?

 

I have a question, it's more a myth busted or not.

I keep hearing the myth that "Most women who have had an abortion, end up regretting it later in their life"

Is this myth proven true or busted?

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Also I wanna say that guys use sex or are promiscuous for mental reasons and self-esteem issues as well.

And I agree with the point that when promiscuity indicates issues down the road in a relationship, that is the primary reason many men run way or leave the said girl. (I'd honestly I think girls run away from guys for the same reason)

 

I think yer just jealous

 

Absolutely true. I would never use sex for any other reason than mental illness or low self-esteem. It's icky.

 

To some guys who love naughty, sexually active, kinky women she sounds like a jackpot. Personally, if I were a dude I wouldn't. For the fear of constantly always thinking I could get a STD AND I would also HATE to face her 30 evil exes just doesn't seem worth it to me.

If she were older and had a bit of a crazy past and said she had been more respectful with her body it would be different but naw.

 

You can still have a naughty sexually attractive kinky woman that hasnt slept with a bunch of guys though. Like a girl that really really likes sex and is super adventurous with her man but with her man only. Like a closet slut. My favourite kind

 

I dont think anyone actullally believes that, male or female past certain level of libido, they'll say my partners only for me, and in a nervous not so confident way, and then stress out if they leave their partner unattended for 3 days

 

Are you saying theres no such thing as an exciting and monogamous sex life? I have to disagree...

 

I would find it hard to be with someone who terminated life- I'm neither for or against what a woman does with her own body is up to her...
For me I wouldn't embark on a relationship with some who felt it was an option..

Then again if you knew if the child was disabled or to be born with server defects in a community that can cope with the challenge and support network...

I am sure there isnt a day that goes by where some woman count the age of the child, some would say they even grow up in the spirit world along side the the family and you can channel this energy as a positive or negative in your life ....

you are your own ruler :love:

 

Well, yes. But in this fella's case his girl HAS slept with more men than he can count on his fingers and toes. I'm sure he wouldn't be posting if he were in the situation you just explained

 

I know, I was just sayin'!