I feel like I'm beinig punished for being 'nice, smiley, and friendly."

Been single for way too fudging long. The hell mans. How do I find out if this is the case or if it's all in my head.

 

don't be nice, smiley, and friendly for a while.

 

Maybe it's because you think girls are "punishing" you. Not wanting to sleep with you does not mean they're deliberately being malicious. I've seen some of your other posts regarding women, and they're not at all flattering - if you're acting nice just to get girls into bed, they'll see through the facade.

 

IN MY COUNTRY WE CALL YOU IDIOTS . EASY LOAN MONEY. seriously yes . sometimes tell no and sometimes , be a man . do what you want .

 

It's all in your head.

Better? :2thumbsup:

I constantly get yelled at for being "carefree", which means caring without letting a certain person drag me down to be miserable over every little thing. Guess I know the feeling.

 

Those were mostly spiteful troll posts, but also trying to prove some points. That persona stays on the internet. I don't do nice gestures to try to get laid.. I honestly think I'm simply a genuine, considerate and non-confrontational person... (most of the time), that's the type of accommodating and calm hippy lifestyle I prefer to exist as. Oh, and as a man 'not wanting to sleep with you' = punishment. After all, we want to be lusted after too.

See that's the thing. Saying 'no for the sake of it? Disagreeing for the sake of it? What if I naturally cope well with most situations and have very little need to ever get angry? Can one be a man without having to raise his voice and disagree with stuff 'cuz it's manly?

Hmmm, ya lol I don't know. It would be nice if I didn't have to change. :daisy:

I got a lot of theories on my 'self,' probably moreso than any random stranger on the net could advice.
But methinks my at times polite and considerate or non-confrontational demeanor may be something worth examining, or maybe I'm just turning that thought into an insecurity and that's worth examining instead.

 

sure one can. one just won't be seen that way, because at some point someone decided that men have to act like irrational assholes or else they're pussies.

if one wants to impress women, one should probably just act like an irrational asshole.

 

As with the means, so with the ends...

If you act like an irrational asshole you will succeed in bedding a girl that responds to irrationality and assholishness.

If you adopt the means of being yourself, then even though it may take a long time, the person you do end up with will be correct for you.

 

In red.

About the best answer this could have, I think.

 

Word, thank you man. Of course, the words aren't even mine, they're Gandhi's.

I think that's one of the most important elements of Satyagraha/Gandhism, and I find it holds true in every area of my life, not just socio-political.

 

I feel like I'm beinig punished for being 'nice, smiley, and friendly."

not knowing anything about you other than what youve written here am figuring your maybe mixing with the wrong people perhaps?
whats wrong with people if they don't like nice smiley and friendly? guess theres something wrong with their heads not yours. we all go through alone times, thats life, none of us can see into the future and what lies ahead, could be theres a nice suprise just around the corner for you. :love:

 

Of course, you are. You`re not putting any work into being the doormat girls love so. :biggrin: