my ex-girlfriend flirts with me and does not want to leave her rebound

Here is the story.

My ex-girlfriend is now in a relationhip with someone. I am 25 and she is 22. The guy she is with is 19/20. Well long story short, she and I went out. We broke up. We remained friends. She goes out with a guy. We Stopped talking. We started talking again. I have a mutual friend with her, and the friend says that she don't seem serious about him.

My ex and I became friends again. She flirts with me, de facto flirting. So I think she wants to get back with me, I tell her to leave him for me. She says no. Well, she sees me at the job and flirts with me some more. I get confused again and ask her the same question. She declines. Well I ask her to leave him for me again, after she keeps showing interest in me. She declines. Meanwhile she asks me to hangout with her, and she has a boyfriend. And she is always the one planning the dates with me. She pays for her own stuff like food and stuff when we are out. Two days ago she asked me to bring her lunch at her job. She is a popular girl, numerous friends (too many, and plenty enough to keep her company), so there is no reason why she would be hanging out with me. I'm more of a square.

So fast forward to the now. Last Friday I think it was, we went to eat at a restaurant and went to the mall to hangout for a bit. So by now it hits me that she is having an emotional relationsihp with me, and having a physical relationsihp with her boyfriend also, or maybe she is having an emotional relationship with him too and me at the same time. I don't know that for sure. She shows signs of wanting to leave, but I asked her four times already and she will not leave him. I think that she is doing is cheating. Not okay, but she could fix it. Pick me or him. And I feel kind of pititul from all this. I'm a good looking guy. I have looks good enough to be a womanizer (I don't womanize), but here I am being an option. I have turned down women who have showed interest in me, again the good looks deal. I don't have any true, honest interest in a relationsihp with them so I declined. Some I'm not attracted to and I can't really date and get into a serious relationsihp since I'm still torn. I thought men were supposed to be immune to emotional scars like this?

I really do want her back. I want her to leave him for me; I have reasons, some selfish, some not, and just want to have a future with a girl like that; whom I had. I like her as a friend. If no romance relationship, then a regular friendship will be okay. And the chemistry between her and I are so high, and strong I don't know how I can save myself and leave this situation without life-long emotional scars from being un-fulfilled romantically. What should I do?

 

Young men often confuse the feelings of a hurt ego and/or just wanting to "win" with ACTUALLY WANTING THE WOMAN.

Who would want this triffling bitch anyways? Your pride has just been hurt - that is all - once you realize she's a dumb bitch you'll realize you didn't lose anything.

How can you keep talking to her when she's banging another dude and flirting with you at the same time.... learn to have self-esteem man. I wou;ldn't even be COMMUNICATING with some woman I want that's banging another guy... don't think I'd even want her anymore after that - the loyalty is obviously gone or was never there to begin with.

 

I understand. This is going to make your self esteem worse if you stay. You'd also be denying your feelings. If she wanted to be with you she would be. I'm not saying breakups are easy especially the more integrated you have someone in your life but when someone wants you they take the steps to get where they want to be right? I'd try to let it go and move on. Someone better is out there.

 

Man, this post fucking hurts me just to read it.

I don't know what I'd do.

 

just let her go.

 

It's really hard, but I will not call her anymore. I will just let her call me. And when she wants to go hanging out with me, I'll just tell her I'm not comfortable being with a girl that has a boyfriend and I'm being confused. Because I think what she is doing is not right.

 

Don't connect her for sometime until she get to know what she really wants.

 

U start off wanting her as a gf back but then u had u just want a friendship at the end of the post. I thinkin u do want her as a gf and that obvious. I think u need to stop talking to her if shes not planning on wantun to leave the other guy for you and I think u got it right...your just emo support and not physically.....i say bail...

 

The hammer of justice has been dropped...