My dad is driving me crazy

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I am in the same exact fucking situation. like completely. cept with us it's HVAC. I'm a college student as well, expected to do work in the business too, and I get the guilt trips as well. I know what it feels like man.

 

Yes sir, I did, and I appreciate you trying to get the thread back on topic. My dad never really says anything pertaining to sacrificing for the family. He's just depressed I guess. He thinks he has the weight of the world on him, which I understand. My grandpa (who is just like him) expected just as much from my dad, as my dad does from me. Except my grandpa was a little more cold. My dad told me he would do stuff just to try and impress him or to try and get a "good job" or "thank you". My dad will atleast give me that after I've done my days work.

It all probably stems from that. He sees me as a younger version of himself, although me and him are nothing alike. We have the same work ethic and same drive to accomplish, but personality wise, we're are too different people.

He worries over getting things done, ove rbeing behind losing his job, losing my grandpa. He's got alot on his plate.

 

I'm nothing like my dad, but at the same time I'm very much like him. It's very weird.. I've come up with my little theory, not sure if it's right or not but seems to make sense.


Our personalities are partly hereditary, cos we're made up of our parents DNA. DNA's a protein, and a shit ton of the chemical reactions in our body revolve round these proteins. So basically we'll share similar chemical reactions that will result in similar responses to certain events. I've started to notice some of the shit me and my dad have in common that I'd never even thought about before.. it's crazy shit.
Then there's the whole psychological personality. That's constantly changing due to our environmental stimuli.. such as society. As we get older we become more aware of things, and naturally we kinda tune in to what we need.. your dad stresses the importance of work - because that's what society is telling us to do, and he's been more exposed to the big bad world than you have so far.

I know that doesn't seem relevant, but it's helped me understand the bullshit my parents have been spewing at me for the past 19 years.. and a lot of it actually seems to resonate a lot of practical sense, which is mind blowing


You're probably right, he has got a lot on his plate.. and probably thinks he has a lot more. He's probably feeling very responsible for you, my mom is exactly the same. Any fuck up I make she immediately blames on herself - it's annoying, but apparently that's one of the many catches of being a parent..
But think of it, he's trying to get you prepped for living out there where you have to work fuckin' hard to "make it", and where nobody gives you breathing space, there's no room for any fuck ups, where there's a huge shortage of jobs, and house prices are through the roof.
It's fucking hard just to get by, let alone enjoy yourself.

Good luck with it all anyway though dude

 

Your dad will never tell you a good word . he will be always the mean word to you . to make you better . or make you the best . he is older than you , you will never understand him untill you be the same age . some things can not be understand . time make all more better .

 

Sounds like my boyfriends dad. He passed away this year, so my advice to you is to just appreciate your dad.