Im 16 and ive been asked out by a few guys in these past few days especially, i was wondering if anyone else has that problem? I wear my Pride bracelet 24/7 and dress like a tomboy all the time, so its obvious I'm not straight, so what do I do? Btw I havnt come out yet, although a year ago I told 4 people i was bi (which i was but now im pretty sure i dont like guys at all)
Well usually its people ive been friends with for years so i feel real bad about turning them down haha
Why do you need help with this? I'm almost certain all it takes is a certain movement of the tongue and opening of ones mouth to create a noise using air through your vocal box forming the words, 'Sorry, I'm not interested in men.' and then shrugging your shoulders and or looking sincerely sympathetic.
Because when I tell people I'm interested in women they say "its worth a try" and are convinced its just a phase and that I'm actually straight
You shouldn't see it as a problem. Whether it's women or men who see you as attractive, you should be flattered.
Also, why should dressing like a tomboy and wearing a pride bracelet distinguish you as a lesbian.. I knew people like that in high school who weren't gay, most of them were just supportive of the community with their pride bracelet (among their other bracelets, like those I heart boobies ones) and dressing like a tomboy was just their style.. and let's face it, you're 16, most people you talk to aren't going to even think you're a lesbian or aren't going to believe that you're old enough yet to decide if you're a lesbian, either way, stop trying to flatter yourself and be thankful that there is someone out there who is interested in you, regardless of gender..
Where i live people only tend to wear pride bracelets if they're gay themselves, i live in a very homophobic and racist area unfortunately. And i was only asking if its happened to anyone else, calm down lol
If you live in a very homophobic area, then I'm surprised people are wearing pride bracelets at all, kind of contradictory. Also, if you haven't come out yet, how would people know? If people only 'tend' to wear them if they're gay themselves, then it is not 100%, and there are always people who have missed the memo.
Exactly. Some of us aren't fortunate enough to be attractive to anyone other than creeps. lol And being a tomboy isn't something you have to be a lesbian to be. Lots of straight girls are tomboys too, including me.
Wow if you dont understood what i meant, why be so hostile? Shit... What i meant was how do i turn straight guy friends down nicely? But fuck it, it doesn't even matter anymore ugh
this is a common thing that happens to me, too. i get hit on by guys all the time, and i find it annoying because when you say you're not interested, they see it as a challenge. they probably will never stop hitting on you. straight men are attracted to women, its only natural. i have just just learned to be firm yet nice about it.
I totally understand the topic. Actually I haven`t came out yet as I live in a community where people dont discuss that topic and are quite homophobic. Also as I don`t have a girlfriend then people wouldn`t take it very seriously maybe. But could you give me some advice how to deal with that kind of a situation when straight guy hits on you and you can`t say that it is not his fault, he is just a guy. I always feel very irritated actually when they are making their moves and try to be nice and everything.. cause just knowing what they mean with that makes me feel uncomfortable. But I dont want to be rude to them cause, I live in a little place, everyone are quite tied with each other and in my past I already have acted in a weird rude way and some relationships have broken because of that. But I always start to feel very bad when guy hits on me and as I dont know hot to handle it in a nice way, I became rude or even little nasty... although I really dont want to, they just dònt know whats the case.
Straight guys keep asking me out/hitting on me too No matter how many times I say I'm a lesbian they say, "Well hey! So am I!," or something stupid like that. And since I'm a virgin it's even worse. They say, "How can you say you like women, when you haven't even had sex with a guy or a girl yet?!" my answer to that is, "There's more to a relationship than just sex..." If that's not enough, they'll then say, "How can you say you don't like dick, when you've never had it?", I simply say, "I've never drank arsenic before, but I know I don't want it." <---Okay that's a little extreme, but it sometimes gets them to shut up (also, penises gross me out. I can somewhat stand to look at them in 2-D format, but 3-D is another story). That, or I'll just tell them I'm in love with someone (which is usually true in some cases...), and that usually works, but one guy said, "Well, if you ever decide to have sex with a guy, please let me be your first?" I told him I'd keep that in mind, but I know I'm never going to have sex with any man, so I only said it so he would back off, and he did. Though, he is a nice guy, that's probably why it was so easy to get him to stop I'm not really annoyed by it, I actually consider it flattering, but I just wish it were girls instead
