So usually it's men begging their wives for sex but ever since we started dating my hubby just isn't into sex and I'm addicted to it!!! We have sex pretty much everyday but he isn't into it... For example today he pulled out as soon as I came and just went to sleep!!! I know he loves me, I can tell by the way he treats me.... Help!! What can I do that doesn't involve cheating?
take a break, or try new things, be naughty and do it somewhere unexpected lol het the heart rate goin
if you insist on staying with someone who doesn't like sex, it might be better if you don't force him to do it every day.
Havin sex everyday really can be trouble-some...I dated a chick once and we did it so much I began to dislike it. I remember she wanted some x-mas sex dick and I'm being a dumass sayin "even on Jesus's birthday?" Needless to say, she sucked on something and we had a good time! Now I want some sort of sexual gratification every day.
You know what rather a man wants to talk or not doesn't change the fact that it's necessary. I mean how else is she supposed to know what's going on with him? Besides stereotypes aside, some guys DO just love to blabber non-stop. I get the feeling there is no communication here about what's going on just assumptions. She should find out if he is enjoying the sex or there's not much of a relationship there.
DO NOT GO ON A BREAK!!! A break (to me) is a sexual vacation in which you can have sex with who ever, whenever as much as possible within a slotted time. My ex said lets go on a break and then I married my current wife. The other times we took "breaks", I was a man whore, good times.
I'd ask him what he wants to try, maybe he has seen something before he would like to try? Toys? Masturbation? Videos? Maybe he has something he wants to share, like pain during sex or problems ejaculating? I had a boyfriend who's left ball would kill him when he ejaculated, so much so it put him off sex and he would pull out sometimes when we were done. He was going to go to the Dr's about and felt so relieved to even discuss it, but I never knew the outcome because we broke up before the appointment (for another reason)... If after all of the suggestions he is still uninterested (which I doubt he will be if you open the line of communication) I would suggest something a little more formal like sex therapy. When the line of communication is open though, give it time, WEEKS, ask him to think about sex whenever he can and what he wants to explore, and for him to be able to contact you whenever to discuss it, so when he feels in the mood for something at the time, he can just tell you even if he doesn't want to do it straight away. Even if it's just a text when your both at work and he tells you he wants to try this or that. It's exciting for both of you then! That will help him open up about. Remember as well, it's not about what YOU want when exploring other stuff, it's about him. Don't make it all me me me, even if it's tempting because you're fed up, some men can feel very pressured by a womans needs sexually and it will prevent him from sharing if he thinks it might not be what you want. I don't blame you for feeling frustrated, sex is an important aspect to relationships and especially marriage. Even if he doesn't feel the same way and could do without it, it doesn't mean that you have to deal with it and suffer. I personally couldn't deal with it, and would have done something about it a while ago, but now is your chance to make it right! Good luck! Let us know how it goes?
OP starts off her first post with, 'Its usually the men begging their wives for sex' - she knows this from what? What all the other girls have said out loud, or dumb jokes from sitcoms? She has no idea, not like she's a fly on the wall in every couples bedroom, and its not like any girl is every going to admit he has the power in that department. So what if most of the time with every other couple it is bullshit. Then whats the use of communicating if its just going to be bullshit. Its just biology in the end, guys are at their horniest at 15 from then on its a downward spiral admitting that is an attack on their manhood. They'd get fed up with eating the same chocolate bar if they had to eat the same chocolate bar for 10, 20 years. And again regardless of what they'd say, there biggest fantasy is probably just to lie there have a wide variety of girls suck them off, without them having to do any work, or face any consequences Whats to work out
yes i guess him making me cum is a good thing but thats not all i want! i want him to enjoy it too! i want him to cum as well... i want him to want sex.
I'm making plans to talk to him about it when i get back from work on Wednesday we'll see how it goes.. maybe i'll call him about it and start the conversation over the phone.
So you want the love and affection that comes when two people do the wild monkey dance, even after you cum. hubby just wants to get you off then goes to sleep? Something isn't right, one of you is doing something wrong or isn't telling the other what is wrong. Because I dont know any man who doesn't want a moderate amount of sex. In the OP she said they do it everyday, how about trying sex every other day? Is the sex random or is it the same ol same ol? Try this ---> 31 Days of Hot Sex. Best advice I have is to give him space and communicate better. Here's a crazy ass idea, get him drunk as hell an ask, because we all know a drunk man doesnt tell no tales.
Lol, schedule the talking, every more exciting. Just download the Mimimimimi Iphone app, automatically rings him every hour with 5 mins of mimimimimi, then he can download the Yes Dear app which every 5 mins says Mmhm, yes dear oh I know......uh huh I hear Iphone 5 is going to have the OMGSTFU app
