Hello All ! I am new on here so sorry if this is the wrong place ! So we only been going out for a few weeks and its been really great. Hes very sweet and i know hes gonna treat me right as we been friends for over a year. He had a girlfriend of 5 years before and has said that the sex between them was awful and that she always say it hurt or he do stuff to her and then she just turn over and go to sleep. Skipping to the MAIN POINT IS, we been sleeping togther and everything is great and hes amazing with all of it. But sometimes he will just stop because hes gone floppy all of a sudden. He keeps worrying hes hurting me, when i told him not once has he hurt me because always very turn on by him lol but no matter what i say, he still has this problem. Is there anything i can do to help him? or any advise that i can give him to help him with this problem? Thanks in advance for any advise !!!:2thumbsup:
exaggerate sexyness and do your best not to let "the mood" get ruined. personally, I like to stop once in a while and just take in my girlfriends body, and vary the intensity of the overall experience. I don't have that second problem with her, but it has happened in the past. Once it happens e probably feels a little discouraged and from there, it just gets worse. Sex for most people seems to be a source of anxiety when it shouldn't be. Good luck and I hope everything else is going great for you two!
Never though of that lol i will try thanks for the advise Its not that because i know when he comes. He even said sorry when hes come to early. which i said is fine, i dont mind coz other times he lasted ages. BlueLightRain you make a good point. I find that he takes control a lot, but i think i will try taking control more and see if that helps. We are great togther otherwise. I just want to help him overcome this. Coz i think hes really worth it. Thanks for everyones advise anymore is welcome !
I sometimes stop if I feel my hips starting to hurt a bit but I usually slow down or rub my lower stomach on my gfs clit to keep it going. It sounds like your bf is doing it as a reflex because of years of hurting his old gf (who knows what issues she had?) and you will just have to give it time. At any rate it sounds as though things are going well for you two with everything else so I don't think either of you should get too hung up on it
I had the same problem with an ex and I was just supportive of him and talked him through it. It was all some sort of mental block. Once he was completely comfortable and trusted me, it stopped.
It's obviously the worrying that's causing it but tellin him that won't help. Maybe talk more during the sex so that he's not in his head so much? If he likes that sort of thing. Also one thing that helps me is if I go down on the girl before having sex and give her an orgasm. That way I'm not as worried about her pleasure when we actually fuck, because I know she's already had an orgasm. But this is about him worrying about hurting you, so I don't know if that'll help.
He's probably just loosing the erection because he's nervous. When this happens don't make a big deal out of it. Give him some kisses and cuddles for a minute or two and then start sucking him. Take your time and don't rush into trying to start sex again
