And I got publications to back me up this time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQ1MMput45Q"]YouTube- What's wrong with how we mate And that's the sugar-coated version. And please don't be ignorant and simplify it thinking it's just the approach, it carries over to the ENTIRE attitude. The approach, the conversation itself, initiating of contact info, the first date, the 2nd date -- I personally don't find it fun at all to talk to a closing door, willing to stay open only if I remain interesting and 'the perfect guy.' "Why doesn't he call??" WOMAN, why don't you call! It's fucking ridiculous. When will you finally stop sitting back, enjoying your position of judge & jury and realize y'all are making guys have to hustle to try to get to know you, and you're giving them no option but being the aggressor. Then at the same time, calling them creeps or rapists if their game isn't right? Do you not see how limiting, selfish, and hypocritical that is? If you want equality, why isn't there equality in the dating game? I personally hate the way things play out in the dating game. :ack2: It makes me sick. *also I don't think you realize you're not meeting 80% of the men population (lots of good, nice men too), because most normal people don't just approach a stranger because they find them attractive.
In my experience, if I approach a guy at a bar, he assumes it's all about looks and attitude. In his mind, this is a girl looking for a one night stand and there will be no second date. Of course I'm generalizing here, but many men don't think of strangers in bars as people with whom they could potentially have a meaningful relationship. We don't expect you to be the perfect guy, just one who tends toward the respectful, interesting side of the spectrum. Isn't it a general complaint of men that they get too many texts/calls from girls over the course of the day? I've heard so many guys say they just want their girls to leave them alone, so either way it's our (women's) fault. Girls who do this are bitches. Most women are flattered if guys approach them, provided they're not obviously and wildly inappropriate (as in huge age difference, obnoxious drunkenness, etc.). I'm not so sure you watched the whole clip you posted. At the end, the woman being interviewed mentioned that, in fact, things are still unequal. Although there are women with more power now, the world is still very biased in favor of men. It'll take a few more generations for it to become socially acceptable for a woman to be the aggressor.
I generally end up dating guys because we're thrown together in some situation (mutual friends, work) and develop a friendship based on common interests. I don't enjoy being pursued by someone because he finds me attractive, and its not in my personality to pursue someone else for this reason. I would rather find a common ground with someone and pursue each other in mutual respect and interest with a complete lack of aggression.
I didn't watch the video, but most Americans period suck at every aspect of dating, sex, and relationships. They have no clue what they're doing, and it's driven almost purely by image, tradition, media, and "mores".
