Ok I thought of approaching the subject of being completely alone in a different manner. I´ve been by myself for a lot of years now and i´ve learnt to be alone, meaning without a girlfriend (I have lots of friends though). To be honest, being alone is the hardest shit EVER, not becoz it REALLY sucks, but because of the MEDIA and society. Hear me out: You wake up in the morning and you turn on the radio and 99% of the songs are about love/sex/relationships etc, or they´re about how much being alone sucks. If you decide to watch TV, same shit all over again but now with visuals. Sex all over the fucking place, everywhere, all the time, except in cartoons. Even in horror movies there´s always a chick showering naked and getting murdered seconds later. Now you decide to go to some social event, those being weddings/birthdays etc, all you see are coupples being together looking happy, at ease and comfortable with eachother, while you have to talk to the other singles who you do not give a fuck about (and reciprocately). At work all you hear about is how great coupples life is and all you can do is back away and try not to think how fucking alone you are. Nobody ever says "hey man, I have a GF, and I´m telling you, being alone is FUCKING AWESOME, never change dude!". All this being said, is there ANYONE here, that is TRULY happy being alone? Is that even possible with the media constantly bormbarding you with the notion that true happiness is ONLY achievable through love, relationships and sex? I´m not complaining about being lonesome, It has its advantages. But it´s impossible for me to be truly happy with the world being as it is, i´ve been thinking about a single MOVIE that promoted being alone, or ended with a character being happily alone and I just can´t remember any, more so, I don´t even think there is one. Thoughts anyone?
if you have the hardest shit ever you should try a stool softener... you really need to get out more, and stop fixating on one single topic of conversation. people talk about all kinds of different things; you just refuse to acknowledge when they aren't talking about relationships. i've seen plenty of unhappy couples in public, and just yesterday i met a guy who told me i have it made because i'm single. the media is oversexed, but it doesn't exclusively focus on sex like you seem to think. and besides, who gives a fuck what the media says? i can't think of a romance movie where the main character ends up happily alone, because they're romance movies. but there's plenty of movies in other genres where the main character does not find love and is still not miserable.
Of course that's possible. You kind of have to shape your own world though. Do you have a hard time ignoring people in your neighbourhood? No? Well, it's just as easy to ignore this annoying media. Unless you are in an environment where it is forced upon you by other people or something? I guess not, since you are alone. Also, happiness is not an ongoing thing. So it's normal to not be happy all the time when you are alone (same if you are not alone of course). I'm pretty happy alone, although sometimes I feel like I'd rather be in a relationship as well. I don't let myself get depressed by overromanticized views in shitty tv programs though.
Man the movies that don't promote all the overused themes and focuses more on the fact that real life isn't always the desired love story, are called Independent films. To be happy alone, you have to find meaning in your everyday life. And by alone I just mean not in a relationship, not completely isolated without any social interaction.
If your not happy by yourself chances are other's probably won't be happy with you. If your happy with yourself and being single then good things will come, I always seem to have the best luck with the ladies when I really don't care. That's probably easier said then done though.
Barney Stienson, every third person in college, most rap songs Though being celibate is hard to celebrate.
SPOILER ALERT I started watching the 7th season of How I met your Mother and didn´t Barney get married? Anyway, this weekend I´m going to see a movie with a girl I met on my faculty, lets see how it goes, she´s not really attractive but who cares, I´m tired of chasing unicorns heh. Thanks all.
You know sometimes it happens that people want what they do not have example you are alone, you want a relationship you see relationships everywhere... then you are in a relationship, you want to be left alone to play and fool around, you see sole men and women leading their lives and not having to share their bed at night at every corner.. then you are in a relationship and you want kids and to get married and all the ads advertise baby food and the park is full of happy moms and dads...everybody is having a family and you don't even have a mate, of course the reality rest kilometers away.. but I tend to notice all the above from my friends...we all want something different than what we have...moves and changes from time to time...suddenly its winter and we love our hubbies and his warm embrace, then its summer and oh there we are stuck again with all the party going around us but we are in a serious relationship now, so forget the handsome guy at the bar across... "Wants and needs" swift constantly, especially to young ages, so do not worry, its a passing phase...
i've never actually seen that show, but as a rule by the time a show hits season 7 the writers are so desperate for new plots that every episode is based on a ridiculous scenario that makes no sense in either real life or the context of the show.
I follow the series, it's actually not that off key given that the characters in the show do follow a path of growth and development.
