why doesn't he want to be friends with benefits?

so i was talking to this guy for a little while that I met on a dating site, i explained to him that i was looking for a friends with benefit (2 days a week minimum of hooking up, he can have sex with other girls as long as I don’t hear about it, im willing to drive to his house).ive had a friends with benefit relationship before and..he told me that he was interested in doing this….

we hung out twice at his place, he was trying to sleep me with the second time, and so we had sex….which went terrible by the way.. he cam in 2 minutes. afterwards, He tried to make me a promise of hanging out with me again soon, stayed distant as much as possible, and tried to get me to leave his place as soon as possible….(oh boy!)

of course he didnt text me for 3 days after that, i ended up texting him he said he was busy with some bs reason.. and i havent heard from him and its been almost a week

so its like “okay so he only wanted a one night stand, and he cums in 2 minutes... how satisfying is that for anyone?"

what the hell is wrong with him? (btw im attractive and easy going)

 

Sounds like your crazy.

If you dont want a serious relationship then you should'nt even care.

Maybe he was embarressed by his lack of sexual Persistence?

Nothing is wrong with him. What the Fuck is wrong with you? You meet this guy online, have a terrible experience and then keep on going after him like your a dog looking for its owner and when he says "Backup" (in a sense) you come onto a forum hoping that we would slander and disrespect his name so that you could feel better about dropping all ties with him....

Dont worry, your not the only one who is crazy, i would say about 73% of the population is.... 90% tops.

 

People either want stuff or they don't. Only they can decide which one. There's no logic to it.

Besides, he probably thinks you're ugly.

 

Maybe he's not a whore
I know that I'd NEVER be anyone's fuck buddy

 

You said sex with him was terrible. Why would you want it again?!
Find someone else.

 

He's smart and doesn't want to get all tied up with the drama of sleeping with someone and not having one ounce of feeling for them.

Some people are against friends with benefits... but to be honest you're more acquaintances than friends, don't you agree? Try to get to know him more and see how it plays out.

Maybe since it's online he just wanted a one night thing and THAT'S IT! He could be playing the step higher than Friends with Benefits, the *One Night Stand* . It really just signifies he was looking to get laid and doesn't care if you're attractive or easy going. He got what he wants and that's that.

I mean what do you expect girl it's the internet Can't trust and take people too seriously on this thang ya dig? :2thumbsup:

That too.

 

My guess is he's not too proud of his performance and is probably waiting for you to text him.

 

just tell him you really don't mind that he came fast and you want to help him out with sex, he obviously could use a few pointers.

 

Hey Asthetic, what business of yours is it why she wants a friend with benefits? It's pretty common things in today's world and such a realtionship can serve needs and maybe also save marriages and relatinships. There are lots of reasons why people look for friends with benefits and all to their own needs and, since this is posted in Free Love, their sexuality.

And to the OP - well I'd just say that he's not into you, or else he's got a problem with closeness or another. Sometimes when a guy has his orgasm he just loses all interest and feels guilty. I had a blind session with one guy and he came real quick too and didn't even stay to bring me off.

Sure some people you meet from the internet can be odd but I've had mostly good experiences, the not so good ones were where we just didn't click together rather than any bad happening. But yeah, you should always post back and fore a bit and get a bit of a feel of the other person before meeting, esp. for women. You really need to meet first somewhere neutral. Men talking with men tends to be more straightforward they are mostly looking for sex: married men cheating, and gay guys playing the field and some bisexuals like me who like to dabble both ways.

Good hunting

Simon :sunny:

 

Well I personally am all for "Friends with benefits" but it does become my business when she asks on a forum.

But I understand were your coming from and I respect you for it.

I was just giving my 2 cents :mickey:

 

I'll be your friend with benefit!
pm me if interested.

 

proof demanded

 

what business of yours is it what business of his it is why she wants a friend with benefits?

don't do it! you only get one benefit with this guy!