people judge others because of their appearance?

I was raised in a hippy lifestyle... raised around spirituality. I don`t have a certain style; I listen to all types of music, I dress in all kinds of clothes, my friends scatter from "group" to "group". I feel like there isn`t a certain way to be. Don`t judge people from their appearances...... they could be completely different than your first impresson. eace:

 

Well-put, I agree. You can't tell someone's heart by looking at their body, the shell.

 

In general this is true but people have "tells" in the way they present themselves

What makes you talk to someone you don't know? What makes you avoid them?

Judgements

It's what keeps you from having a chat with someone that looks like a rapist

It's what makes you want to make friends with someone with sunny eyes

Looks can be deceiving, but so long as people can be a threat to our safety, judgements are a survival skill


I recently had an experience where I danced with this dude that looked kinda sketchy. He was 50+ bearded and looked like a cross between a mountain man and a street bum and had he asked me my name on the street I'd likely have not answered. But we were poppin off to the music; not really dancing "together" but both of us jumpin and stompin and kickin and lovin it.

Now I can't say for sure that he *isn't* a creeper but we sure did have a good time in that moment and I don't regret a second of it

 

This is one of those things that is kinda retarded to whine about.

If a bear is snarling -- a creature's going to know it's dangerous; likewise, if a person dresses in a similar manner, one is likely to assume that they are kindred in some way.

A person who dresses really hippy all the time, is making a statement about who they are, or more often than not, who they want to be. Same with a person that dresses like a straight up thug.

What you have to remember is that your dress isn't the only part of your appearance that people are judging you by. And maybe if you're getting poor reactions, you should look at your behavior and body language as well.

 

lotta times you can judge a book by its cover. thinking this way ive found can help keep you out of trouble

 

Fear

 

I don't know, I can size people up pretty quick

 

People judge all the time based on almost anything.

Not being judgemental is one heck of a task.

Also, judging a person because the judgements they make ...... :gossip:

 

I try to not judge people by how they look. But I think its near impossible.

 

you probably think that's true, but people outside your friends definitely don't see it that way.

:2thumbsup:

 

It's unconscious to some degree. We only consciously think about a small amount of what we see. Opinions can be swayed though, I'm close friends with lots of people I perceived as less then desirable to hangout with.

 

Most people are too judgmental, imho. And they judge yu on all kinda things that maybe, 50,000 years ago when we were hunter-gatherers in a hostile environment, might actually have mattered to survival. But now, 50,000 years later, when we're masters of our environment, they dont' matte a damn.

It's why I enjoy internet interestions so much.

All you've got to go on is what a person says. What they write. Agree or disagree, there is no room to be swayed by preducices abotu how they dress, how they act, how they talk. The only thing you have to hang on to is what they actually say.

And that is more revealing about the true person beneath the facade than anything else that I know to judge by.

 

Vision is our most important sense. It follows that we depend on visual clues to make judgements about everything that crosses our paths, including people. Body language by humans or for example,dogs--if observed tells us as much or more than speech in many,many situations. We judge most everything by sight. If you see a man with a suitcase and a suit on-your observation probably lasts for a split second and then gone. You just know instantaneously that the danger level is low. If you see a man with his pants below his ass,hat on backwards-surly attitude or not-your observation will rightfully last longer than the time it took for the suited up man-could be danger? Maybe,maybe not. Social conditioning. We have to--no--we better make decisions on what we see. Otherwise,we could be blindfolded and dropped off in any neighborhood in any country in the world and be just fine. Hardly.



I will say tho-the pricks in suits have done more harm than the backwards hat guys. That's another story.

 

Judging is good.


aside from stranger-danger scenarios, people love expressing themselves through appearances. Why wold you do that if you didn't want to be judged accordingly?

 

I don`t think this is retarded. I feel like people are right in some point of view, but I guess I`m thinking in the highschool perspective.

 

I don`t think this is retarded to ponder on.. sure, it might be a survival skill, but it`s usually the judgments of looks rather than charactor. Maybe it`s because I`m a teenager, I see it in the way of people only judging on rather they can be your friend or not because of the way you dress or who you`re friends with. You`re completely right when you say it could be body language or behavior.. but, what I was refering to is when looking at someone who comes off as "different" from others say someone who is "suicidal", but looks like a complete confident person & then judging them or putting them down because of that & bringing them down & making them feel worthless. There are many people out there who are not what they seem & it doesn`t mean you HAVE to strike up conversation or be their friend, but putting them down without knowing them or if they do drugs or something; doesn`t mean they`re a complete druggy or anything. I don`t know.. everyone who has posted has a a good perspective of what they think about this whole thing. I just have to disagree when it comes to judging someone before giving them a chance to show you who they are. If they don`t show you who they are, maybe you shouldn`t share your judgments based on appearance. If you think something of them without knowing them for who they ARE.. don`t say a damn thing is what I`m saying unless you plan on giving them a chance to show who they are.

 

^ You are talking about making fun of people not judging people

Pretty much only teenagers and frat boys do this

I judge these people as d-bags

 

This is true, I come off as a bitch a lot because I'm very quiet and I usually only talk to someone if they initiate the conversation first, but I will talk to pretty much anyone. Except creepy looking old perverts.

 

I find this true but at you're age friends are going to go from group to group...i guess they are trying to find where they fit it.
I was always judged in high school for my appearance, never into labels(couldn't afford it and i was fine with it). I was really over weight and dressed like a boy lol i admit body language does give off signals to people but being labeled the big bully was not nice. You are at that age where you are going to get lots of friends trying to find out where they fit in...some will try so hard to be a particular person they are not and some will have to learn what you already know.

 

About 6 mo ago, I let my beard grow long. People treat me very differently now. Some see me as a potential threat; and others see me as no threat at all.