my boyfriend masturbating next to me

thats hot!

 

Hey Firefly, I would tend to agree with a lot of your points, about being respectful etc. I dont believe jacking off in bed next to your partner if your partner isnt comfortable with it is a very good thing to do.
I have personal experience. I masturbate occasionally as does my fiance. Often if she isnt in the mood i do masturbate in bed next to her, and sometimes she next to me. We have pre discussed these things, and neither of us is worried or feels disrespected.
If she in any way felt uncomfortable about it, i certainly wouldnt do it.
I totally disagree with the neanderthal approach of 'she has to take care of my needs, or else'.

 

You're doing it right.
Compatibility does play a part here, too. I wouldn't expect my fiance to get on his knees on command any time of the day or night for me and vice versa, but we don't list that amongst our must-have qualities in a mate, so it works.
If you need absolute spontaneity 100% of the time, I guess talking things through would kill it for you, but personally, I couldn't live like that. I'd probably develop PTSD and a twitch, always looking around to see where it was coming from, then one night, BAM! Penis in the butt while I sleep. And on that day, I would have been glad if he had just jacked it next to me and rolled over and went to sleep...
I'm kidding of course. I'm sure someone's psychoanalyzing this anyway, though.

 

First off, if it's my bed I will yank it if I want to.

Second, as someone else stated....I cannot even imagine being with someone who had an issue with this. I am very sexual, and I'm not gonna share a bed with someone that is uncomfortable with me pulling out my cock behind closed doors.

I don't understand the following thought process: "you must go down to the basement and jack off to whatever porn you can find....you absolutely cannot fantasize about me while I'm in the room"

Just doesn't make sense to me. But then again I am a sexual deviant so my view may be obscured. Most of my girlfriends have made videos for me so I don't have to use porn.

 

LOL i also am a sexual deviant but i do respect what my lady considers to be over the line of what she is comfortable with. Having said that she has never complained yet, and neither have I seeing as she masturbates in bed as often as I.
One other point is, 'if its my bed i will yank in it if i want to'. its not my bed haha. We share it.

 

yes and you live in a perfect world now dont you.
if he really feels like it,and you dont, just let him. once you see him getting all horny and shit you would probably change your mind

 

Let him go at it and jerk off and cum otherwise might find other pussy, I'm sure you don't want that

 

What man never wants to fuck???