I have a hard time finding/keeping relationships.

I have such a hard time having a relationship & keeping it. I`m usually ALWAYS single. I`m also picky about looks... though I personally date someone because they have an amazing personality (in my opinion). I`ve been very hurt because guys call me ugly & usually the ones who don`t aren`t very attractive at all or just aren`t my type. Most of the guys I go for start off as this awesome person, but turn out to be jerks & then most of the girls I`ve been with were either too clingy or just straight up bitches. I`ve only had one long relationship of 4 months, but it doesn`t count because we never talked. I`m just trying to figure out what`s wrong with me. Don`t call me shallow because I`m not just all about looks.. they draw me into the person; personality is what keeps me around. Any advice? :daisy:

 

You're 17... take it easy. It's very rare for someone your age to find "the one" so soon. Just take your time figuring out what you like. I didn't even have my first date till I was 17; so don't worry. You have tons of time. Just live a little! You only have a short time on this earth... explore it and have fun.

 

Life begins *AFTER* High School

I was always single and felt ugly as a teen

After High School I was able to branch out of my social group and meeting guys became more comfortable and natural

 

when i was in high school i also was only interested in people who were out of my league. missed out on some golden opportunities that way.

 

You're still young and theres nothing at all wrong with being single. It's probably not what you want to hear but the best thing would be to study a lot and get invloved with things. Anything possible that is positive. Volunteer to help people in need, etc. This will help you meet new people and it's productive.

Hell with guys saying your ugly and crap. Don't worry about them. There is a huge world out there after high school. Getting out was the best thing to ever happen to me. I was in what we called "the reject pile", joking of course. There were a few smart nerds (when nerdy wasn't cool). then there was me, the not so smart nerd. I never once got asked on a date either.

 

I'm going to take a different approach here since everyone's been pulling that "you're still young" sort of age-based analysis on you... Well, it might be true, but I doubt that's what you want to hear. Sometimes people need to tell you things you don't want to hear, true. BUT, would you listen? That's the question, isn't it?

It doesn't matter how old you are, really. The fact is that what you're feeling right now IS as REAL as it gets. The reason: you're living and experiencing it RIGHT NOW. It's not some virtual reality shit that's supposed to get you ready for when you're an adult. No way. It's LIFE, and it's happening to you RIGHT NOW.

So, here's my advice. Be the best you can be. Believe in yourself. BELIEVE IN LOVE. If someone says you're too young to know what love is at your age, don't ever believe him. Because, TO YOU, IT IS REAL. Just like it was to me when I was your age. It can feel a bit differently as you get older, but so what, right? It's still something you're FEELING. Nobody's entitled to simply dismiss(not saying that's what you guys did, fellow posters, peace to all!) what you're feeling as something age-driven. It might be part of it, but whatever emotion you feel, you're feeling FOR REAL. So enjoy the good ones, remember the bad ones, and never forget any of them. And hold onto your values. If you believe you aren't shallow, then that's good. Make your open-mindedness grow more. Make all the good things about you grow more. Everyday, for the rest of your life. We'll never stop excelling till the day we die, if we don't stop excelling. And anyone who calls you ugly is NOT worth your time. Remember that.

Also, if you've seen a movie called "Sucker Punch", there's a great line spoken in that film...

"You have all the weapons you need. Now fight."

All the best!
::AT::