Hi there, I'm Christelle I'm a 42 years old french but living in Sydney Australia, I say hi to all the girls here I don't really know where to post what will follow, ONLY FOR LESBIANS the point of view of bi women doesn't interest me The situation: A year ago I moved to Australia to live with the one who was suppose to be the love of my life...It just turn out that she has LIED to me during more than a year about her sexual orientation, and now she says that she's turned on sexually by males regularly, in the streets,on TV, or at her work.... EVEN IF I'm with her. My question is the following: Could you live a relationship with someone that is sexually attracted to others, especially males, regardless the fact that you're with that person? On my side I struggle and cry everyday knowing that the one I love and left everything in France, is sexually turned on by them... Your point of view is important for me thank you for your future answers
Damn, Damn,, Damn I would be pissed also. Why haven't she told you before you moved. I think that was very mess up on her part, and you need to tell her that. Honestly in my opinion I don't it shouldn't matter unless you sure she ONLY loves you and wants to be with you. You need to ask her that, and get a straight forward answer from her.
thanks for your answer, so if I rephrase what you said, you could live and have a relationship with a woman that's regularly attracted sexually by males as lon as you're sure that she's with you and no one else right? How could you cope with the fact that at the end you're not enough for her?
I personnaly couldn't be with her. That being said it is completely MY personal opinion and I am not saying you shouldn't be with her. I am merely saying that I agree with your last statement. It would be very difficult knowing that at the end of the day she still wants more then youc an give her. The love of my life, Camille, is attracted to women in every sense but when it comes down to it she is bi. A woman alone will never be enough to satisfy her. We dated for a short time and it ended when she decided to cheat on me with 2 of her exboyfriends and then came up pregnant. I told her I would always love her and to this day we are a huge part of each other's lives. But I told her that I wouldn't give her everything I had and still come up second in her book. Just remember that even though you love this person you should never feel like you come up short with her. I agree with Dreams up there- get a straight answer out of her. Tell her you will not be second best to the love of your life.
I completely agree with toucansam. Personally, I couldn't be with my gf if I knew she was turned on by men, it would turn me insane. But I guess if you trust her and have faith in your relationship and you think that she is the love of your life, there isn't much difference in who she is turned on by, men or women, bar the fact she lied to you about her sexuality. Maybe she is really confused. If you trust that she won't stray, maybe just work on your relationship. I guess where I'm trying to say is what's the difference ( except that she did lie to you) in her checking out a hot guy walking down the street and then checking out a hot girl. Phew I'm confused just thinking about it.... sorry if I haven't been much help. Just go with your heart. Goodluck
First of all...that is really messed up! She lied to you...and it wasn't a small lie at all! That is what would bother me most. I believe in a very truthful and trusting relationship. I HATE it when people lie. I don't see the meaning behind it! About the guy problem... I can understand being upset with her over the fact that she finds males to be sexually attractive. Yet, I can also see how you can not be upset. I think it is common for anyone to feel (for the lack of a better word) jealous and not good enough when their partner is looking at others. But that is just it...they are LOOKING, nothing else. So she gets turned on by guys...but she also gets turned on by girls, and obviously, you. If it was me in your shoes, I would tell her that lying was really wrong. That a relationship needs to be based on trust and you cant trust her if she is lying to you! She didn't do anything with a male, just stated that she is turned on by them. I would give her a chance to prove to you that even though both sexes turn her on, that you are the one she is with, the one she comes home to.
